I am the bride. I didn't get to help choose the bridesmaids dresses at all! Style, length, color, nothing! My MOH took over and we argued in the store! She then told a friend that I was being a "Bridezilla" because I was upset with her actions! I let her have those dresses in that color and then revolved everything else in the wedding around HER choices & around that color scheme to shut her up but yet I'm a Bridezilla? I'm gonna SNAP!! If I'm bending to make her happy how am I a bridezilla????
2007-03-16 07:28:23 · 15 answers · asked by Debbie S 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
In no way are you a Bridezilla! I am guy getting married this summer and I would go just as nuts as you did and it is justified. Your MOH overstepped the boundries without question. Isn't this your wedding? Tell her that you want to enjoy your wedding and doit your way. explain this as nice as you can. Do what it takes. But remember, you cannot please everyone and you will die trying. Make this your wedding and your partner's wedding. Not one for her to play party planner or live vicariously through you. You only want to do it once so make sure it is how YOU want it.
Mr. Man
2007-03-16 07:39:38 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Man 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your not bridezilla and your MOH isn't helping that issue. This is your special day and because of that all choices should be yours especially when it comes to your bridesmaids dresses and such. There is no reason she should be acting like that. This is your wedding not hers and if you snap do so, cause yes it might hurt some feelings but this is your wedding and you should be able to plan it and enjoy it as well.
You might even want to get a planner involved so that it's easier for you to be able to have more control cause a planner will talk to you and your fiance not your MOH
2007-03-16 07:39:27 · answer #2 · answered by WI Wedding Lady 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No sounds like you have a maid of honorzilla, I have that, aka-my sis! I think its an overused term, basically if you are an engaged woman and have a bad day or have something really important that you want done right, you are a bridezilla apparently, and thats not fair!
My sister calls me bridezilla everytime we have spat, whether its wedding related or not, for instance, we were fixing the bags of candy for the wedding this past weekend, and she kept eating it, and we had just enought to do the bags and no extra, I told her to stop cuz we would run out, and she blew up on me, calling me bridezilla and stormed out---literally! I thought my request was reasonable, but apparently since it didn't go along with what she had in mind I'm bridezilla, and I don't think thats warranted....Same thing, except here's one not related to the wedding, I was cooking spaghetti for my family one night, and she wanted to put more water in the sauce and I said no, when she cooks it she can put all she wants in, but otherwise I will call the shots on what I make...she screamed bridezilla at me and stormed out again! I'm standing their liek WTF?! Basically, You didn't hand her her way and smile so your bridezilla, adn thats not ok...I don't quite know how to make it better. I HAVE to have my sis be mine, my mother has been forcing it on us since we were little, I have a matron of honor who I actually like and gets overlooked all the time cuz of Sis, and that really pisses me off, but In my heart she's number one.
long story short... knowing what you want and wanting that to come together in the manner you wish (especially since your paying for it) does not warrant a bridezilla comment. Good luck with it!
2007-03-16 07:41:35 · answer #3 · answered by ASH 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like you need a new MOH she should be helping you this is your wedding not hers. You need to pull her aside and talk to her. You must tell her if she doesn't stop trying to run the wedding and everything you will be forced to get someone else to replace her. This is to be the most memorable day of your life do not allow some fluzzie to screw this for you take charge now or you will regret it later.
God Bless and Congratulations
One other thing it almost sounds like she is doing this because her wedding day sucked and she is using yours to recover her screwed up day. This is wrong put her in her place PLZ.
2007-03-17 21:27:55 · answer #4 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should've put your foot down from the get-go. why'd you cater to her? it's not her wedding. Being a bridezilla is not a bad thing. calling the shots, making decisions, and having expectations are all good things. it's only bridezillas who throw around demands like a diva that are looked upon unfavorably.
2007-03-16 07:37:38 · answer #5 · answered by Sandy Sandals 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same situation, but with my own mother (she's been married twice, but without a wedding ever). We finally made a list of things that were important to me and I had full decision making authority on those things and the others she could pretty much pick though I held veto power. Kept us both happy for the most part.
2007-03-16 07:33:13 · answer #6 · answered by hotdoggiegirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, there's something wrong. Quit using the B word, for starters. Why in the world did you let any of that happen? You should have been assertive, not argued, not allowed any decisions to be made, and just left it for another time. You are angry because you caved. However, you can buck up, get mature, and fix this.
2007-03-16 10:26:47 · answer #7 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not a Bridezilla. She's a Monster of Honor.
2007-03-16 07:34:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is YOUR wedding, not hers. You shouldn't go with her choices at all and let her know that. I would go by myself to the Bridal shop and change everything to what I wanted. If you let her run you over now, just think what else she will do!! Picking baby names that SHE likes, coming over and telling you how to arrange your house, what colors to paint your rooms, etc. Take control of the situation. It's your life, not hers.
2007-03-16 07:42:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont bend over backwards for her, no you are not a ''bridezilla''. Its yourday not your mothers. How would she feel if you took over her day?!. Take over. Do not let her push you around
2007-03-16 07:34:48 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Hánnàh♥ [Hysteria] 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋