Should I leave my boyfriend of 5 1/2 months?

Question

I love him, but I am a freshman in college and have never dated around, I have always just had a boyfriend. I don't go out with my friends that much and act crazy anymore, and I feel like I'm losing my independence and trying to grow up too fast. He wants to marry me, but I am nowhere near ready for that. Like I said, I do love him, but sometimes I feel like I'm missing out on being young and crazy. Also, it is a long distance relationship.

I also should add that I tried bringing this up the other night and I explained how I don't feel like it is the right time for me to be in a relationship and all he had to say was "Please don't leave me" and it was like he didn't care how I felt about it. I know that should be a sign right there, but I don't want to hurt him. But I also need some serious ME time to figure out what I want and who I am.

Answer 1

i think that it is DEFINITELY a mistake to just date one guy for huge long periods of time. while you might love him, you have to put yourself first in this type of situation. if you don't date around, you will never know if there is another guy out there better. not necessarily a better MAN than your boyfriend, but just better for YOU. you don't want to spend your whole life wondering "what if?" do you??? take it from someone who already made your mistake and is now paying for it greatly. you need to figure out what YOU NEED first......this is a crucial point for you. If he is that confident that he is "the one" for you, then he should have no problem with letting you figure that out for yourself. good luck dear.

Answer 2

Grow up at your own pace, don't let him force you to give up some of the best years of your life. Usually Freshman in college are 18-20? If your that young, you probably shouldn't marry, marriages that young have a huge % in divorce rates. Maybe you need to have a talk with him, tell him that you want to party with your friends, or maybe even take a break in the relationship. If anything going to college means your gaining independance, do not risk losing that for anything.

Answer 3

The best thing is you love him,nothing else is important even if your relationship is long distance.Actually this is not important.If you have good relationship you will figure it out.
Probably he could come and live with you,I'm 28 years old and i will do everything if I love someone,I'mm married too and every day I'mm doing a lot of things to get my wife satisfied.
Talk to him about your future and the answer will come.
About you wanna go out and be crazy this you always could do that depends of your friends and how you feel.

Answer 4

i do agree with what you are saying you are still young marriage can change your life a great deal and if your not ready for it don't enter it because marriage is hard Ive been married from the age of 22 but because i had a child i felt it was important for my child to have both parent in his life i wanted to leave many times but stayed for my son and i do mist out on all opportunity that come my way like going back to school traveling. if i had it to do all over again i would have waited to get married. as you get older you will change am not the same person i was in my 20 and now am in my 30 i am total different. don't let know one force you into a life style your not ready for because it Will not work both party should have the same dreams or golds have the same life style plans. you don't have to leave him but he should respect your decision

Answer 5

Okay, you got to let him go for now and then go get really crazy and do lots of drugs and parting, because if you don't now you will eventually and end up hurting him for real. Everybody needs to do all that crazy stuff at one point in their lives. It makes you humble and brings you back on solid ground. I know this may sound crazy but I've been there with my husband. We had separated for 6 months and I went crazy, lost everything, then got my priorities straight and what do you know, now I'm happily married to him with 2 little girls. This is because I don't have that desire for independence because I've been there and I know what I want now.

Answer 6

Sounds like you already know the answer to your question... and maybe, instead of the "IF" question... you should ask HOW to go about leaving him.

Take it from someone who should've ended a relationship 5 1/2 YEARS ago... do it now. It doesn't get better.

Answer 7

you should do what you want to do. addressing the situation as you are now shows you are growing up and thinking maturely. you should not burn your bridges so to speak, but as you said you are young, and now is the time to explore your world.. if you two were meant to be together, it will work out. don't miss out on what is the best time of your life. go for it.

Answer 8

if you're asking a question like that, you kinda already know the answer, huh? it's crappy, but you should leave sooner if he's really serious, than later. tell him the truth, it'll hurt him like hell, but he'll thank you for it in the long run. good luck being young and crazy! (i miss it)

Answer 9

you are young. you need to have fun while you can. this is your prime. have fun and go play for gods sake. don't let him hold you down. Just let him know it's not him and one day you may go back to him. Now is just not good for you. I bet you he will be glad it happened after he starts going out with his friends and having fun! If it's ment to be you will be together in the end!

Answer 10

try transfering to another school;far;far;far away without telling him or any of his kin;and if it meant for you be together;ok;if not;just join the military and see the world for free and they pay for your college;dont lose your independence;in most cases;on long distance relationships;one or both gets hurt;or if you are a church go-er;talk to pastor;then have pastor talk to him;or have daddy talk to him;perhaps you should go out with your friends;if he writes;dont open them;just send back.