okay i'm nineteen now. and i've been having a lot of problems with my father. i'm not going to go into details about that, but can assure you it's serious (my half-sister ran away from home, my half-brother got kicked out of his house, my real brother hates him).
so the thing is. i can move out and stay with a friend who lives quite far away. but do you think this is a good idea? i'm a bit worried, because im not financially strong, but i feel its better to get away from him, because he really is holding me down in ever way conceivable. any advice appreciated.
2007-03-16 07:16:12 · 13 answers · asked by Ge 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
After you get out and to your friends house, get a job and check about going to school to learn a specific trade that you are interrested in. You need to work toward being able to support yourself and be independent so you can get beyond the damage that has been done to your self esteem by your father. Each accomplishment will give you pride in your ability to live a full life despite him. Leave the past behind and look toward a great future for yourself.
2007-03-16 07:34:44 · answer #1 · answered by Country girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many times we look at a parent as an obstacle. In reality in most cases the parent has the child's best interest in mind. This is not always the case and challenges vary from each one. The fact is that you have a roof over your head, food on the table, a place to sleep, study and save for the future. You also in many cases have the other parent to confide in. Moving out before you can afford to be independent can be a negative move. You should be sure you can pay your own way and not depend on others. Friends are not family. Take a good look at the home situation and see where you can make a difference. You may be able to change any negatives in you may have and bring a better atmosphere by your positive self inventory followed by positive action.
It is a challenging world out there. You can make it if you strive to better yourself in every way possible. just don't jump to quick without exploring all possibilities. I believe in the young people and see great futures in the making. You can influence the people around you by your actions. Give it a try and be blessed in all your decisions!!!!
2007-03-16 07:30:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
(Half siblings are "real" too. All I have are half sisters, no whole ones☼)
If I were in your shoes and I had a friend willing to put me up until I got on my feet, I would move out. But that friend would have to know the TOTAL picture as far as finances are concerned and know they would be bearing most of the cost. If they could live with that for at least a year, I would go. I don't think you would be any worse off leaving. it sounds like you would be worse of staying. But you really don't give enough info for a whole picture. Based on what you wrote, that's what I would do.
2007-03-16 07:21:08 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you can get a job and support yourself, I'd say go for it. I started out with nothing and years later I'm doing great! It's hard work but I'm betting you'll be happier and much better off. I'd rather live in a tiny shack that was my own, then deal with an abusive person. If he's holding you down, you'll be free to make your own decisions and plans. You can always find roommates to live with, lots of people out there your own age who struggle financially as well.
Good luck and see it as an adventure!
2007-03-16 07:23:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 00:43:32 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say you need to leave, it will be tough but it is possible, my gf is in the same situation and im saving money to get a place so she can move with me, we are both 19, if u wana talk about it IM me at gavc2112
Good luck
2007-03-16 07:29:50 · answer #6 · answered by prince14 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't wait to get out, but do make sure that whoever you land with understands your financial situation. However, you are beholden to pursue at once better ways to improve your financial situation. Good luck!
2007-03-16 07:29:27 · answer #7 · answered by katbyrd41 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Naah....not a good idea YET.....get a grip on yourself.....figure out what is it that you will do more if your living on your own that you can;t do now ( other than seeing new people or partying or just doin your own thing ) I suggest.....get a job.....save up some money.........trust me.....you'll know when you are ready.
2007-03-16 07:23:30 · answer #8 · answered by Radical 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first you need to understand that moving is a big responsibility and you have to take one step at a time. but sometime we do have to get away to know who we are. so yes move.
2007-03-16 07:22:20 · answer #9 · answered by shereda b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make plans first, don't just leave. Have a plan and a back-up plan. Make sure where you will stay, also make sure that you will be able to make it. But most of all remain possitive.
2007-03-16 07:34:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋