If your spouse was broke...would you buy it?
2007-03-16 07:14:35 · 16 answers · asked by MamaLady 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
no.
if i was marrying somone who couldn't afford a ring, i wouldn't have a ring.
but that said...if you are old enough and responsible enough to be getting married...there's no reason you shouldn't be able to afford a small ring.
if you go to a mall jewelry store, you can buy a diamond ring for a few hundred dolalrs. no, it wouldn't be huge, and the diamond won't be clear/flawless...but if your "broke" boyfriend had to sacrifice a few things and save up for it, it'd be more meaningful that anything out of a little blue box.
plus...you can always "upgrade" later.
2007-03-16 14:37:19 · answer #1 · answered by jennyvee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Interesting that you should ask this exact question. My fiance and I live together and split the bills. I also make more money than he does. When we decided for sure that we wanted to get married, it just so happened to be just a few days before I was getting a big bonus at work. Since I had the "extra" money, we both went and picked out my ring and bought it. The money for the ring came out of my bonus - but to me it is "Our" money, not just mine.
We have been joined as a couple for quite some time now and don't look at it as "my" money or "his" money. It is "ours" and we spend it as we both see fit.
So - I say go for it! I am sure you and your boyfriend (or whomever this is about) can pick out a fantastic ring that you both will love if you help contribute to the cost.
2007-03-16 15:01:14 · answer #2 · answered by confused1 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to have an engagement ring to be engaged. I'd wait and get a wedding band, or get something more contemporary (and cheaper) like a different gem for a center stone.
I'd buy my own if I had tons of $$ and nowhere to spend it!
2007-03-16 14:26:15 · answer #3 · answered by duritzgirl4 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
One- not your spouse yet. Two yes I would, I know what I wanted and we went together to get our rings. If you have the money to do it then go ahead or you can pay in payments. Good luck and Congrats.
2007-03-16 14:24:21 · answer #4 · answered by letigutierrez77 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Of course not. The ring I would get what He could afford on His own. If he's truly broke and can't afford at least a modestly priced ring, he's not ready for marriage.
2007-03-16 14:22:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anissa 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I would help him out a little bit if he was really trying to save up but did not have enough to buy you what he thinks you deserve. But if he was mooching off of me than no way. If my husband did not have enough, I would help him out because I love him and know that he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me.
2007-03-16 15:47:29 · answer #6 · answered by Crystal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. But I wouldn't care how much he spent on me. Also, I did buy my own wedding ring.
2007-03-16 15:41:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no, if he was broke and I really loved him I wouldn't need an engagement ring.
2007-03-16 17:39:09 · answer #8 · answered by Dawnita 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What's yours is mine and whats mine is yours..i think that's how it goes. You should definately discuss finances before you get married. Remember your spouses debt will soon become your debt.
2007-03-16 14:22:17 · answer #9 · answered by I_love_my_dogs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes. I am planning to buy my own this year and getting married next month.coz my engagemnt ring is traditionally military ring. so y not?!
2007-03-16 14:45:24 · answer #10 · answered by >deSires< 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋