Ok here it goes
I'm 17 she is 16, neither of us drive, i will be driving soon and we are really good friends.
anyway we have known each other ever since i can remember and we see each other a few times a year b/c we live about an hr away. i have liked her for a long time and never got the nerve to tell her, but my feelings for her keep getting stronger and stronger.
now she has a bf, but my mind is going crazy with love for her and i just wanna tell her and get it off of my chest. how do i tell her without making things awkward between us?
2007-03-16 06:53:05 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we talk on the phone like 2 or 3 times a week so we are constantly keeping in touch
2007-03-16 07:00:23 · update #1
You need to let her know excatly how you feel like you did here. But beware that she may not have the same feelings or as strong as feelings for you as you do for her. But if your up front about things, she should be willing to hear you out and not rant and rave about it. If she gets witchy, you can do better without her and it will hurt for weeks if not months but your better off on your own then with someone who's not willing to respect you and your feelings. Good luck !!!!
2007-03-16 07:00:01 · answer #1 · answered by the_wicked_itch_of_the_west 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty! Sit down someplace where you two can talk, have a drink, and discuss it. Try to be an adult about it. Explain that you are not trying to put any pressure on your relationship as friends or on her relationship with her boyfriend. Trust me on this, otherwise you will screw it up. You have to be completely honest and let all the cats out of the bag, plus you will need to be mentally prepared for the fact she may not feel the same and may be weirded out. However, what you really are doing by being upfront, honest, and applying no pressure (I mean that too, NO PRESSURE) is putting all the eggs in her basket and letting her carry the emotional luggage. The best part is you can live with yourself and hold your head high. Because truthfulness is one of the disciplines towards honor. At no time can you put your honor at stake. Not for friends, family or love. Because that is the only thing that will be completely yours and it isn't worth the dents.
2007-03-16 14:02:53 · answer #2 · answered by raiderking69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't tell her. The fact is that even though you may have loved her for a while you are only feeling so strongly about her now because she is with someone else. If she wanted to be with you she would be. Let her enjoy her life and you enjoy yours. Besides if you only see each other a few times a year chances are that she isn't even thinking about you and definitly not in love with you. Let her be.
2007-03-16 13:58:17 · answer #3 · answered by Vince R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, try not only to think about yourself. If you feel she is happy with her BF then let her be. Even if it is hard for you. If you get the impression that she is not that happy, be a good friend and talk to her about that.
My motto is never interfere with another relationship if they are happy with it, you could easily break up your friendship if you do that. Try to be a good friend and be there for her. If she is single again make your move. You can tell her how important she is for you, and how much you care for here.
Most important is that you respect her feelings at any time. even if she is wrong. then you can try and help her, but never ever judge her :)
2007-03-16 14:02:37 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until she is single again. It would not be right to say something now that she has a new bf. She may agree or want to slap you!!! If you are SURE she feels the same and the new bf is nothing serious, then maybe. You have to feel this one out.
2007-03-16 14:01:24 · answer #5 · answered by AE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her she probably feels the same way you do. Take a chance. She will either say "yes or no". At least you will get it off ya chest. good luck
2007-03-16 13:58:30 · answer #6 · answered by Frosty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey wolf, the girl has a b/f, why would you tell her about your love?
Wait until something happens (like she breaks up with him or something) and then tell her that you like her since long and you want her to be your g/f.
Good luck.
2007-03-16 13:59:54 · answer #7 · answered by peachy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
respect her and wait. when she is single, you can talk about it. talking about it now would put HER in an awkward and probably guilt ridden situation. if you have been friends for such a long time, you should be friends after she breaks it off with this guy. trust me they won't make it down the aisle.
2007-03-16 13:58:14 · answer #8 · answered by BellaJ_DDils 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im 41 trust me, if u do love her then tell her.Honesty is the best policy.You may get over her someday,if she keeps bf.But if you are almost dead and you never told her,it will hurt that much more.
2007-03-16 14:02:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
at that age her relationship will end soon enough. if you still like her then be a good friend and help her get over the whole situation. then when she has gotten on her feet again. sweep her off them.
2007-03-16 13:58:46 · answer #10 · answered by night dancing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋