how can i get my girl to work out and lose some weight?

Question

ive been with my girl for almost 3 yrs now. i love her but have some issues with her figure and weight. i aint superficial so dont even answer this question with that kind of comment. she was chunky when i met her but she gave me the impression that she was in the beginning of a working out lifestyle. well let me tell you, in three yrs the girl doesnt work out. starts some bullsh't fitness tape and it might go like that for a week or two but dies out. she is really short and at one point she was pushing 170. i keep telling her that she needs to work out and she would be so sexy at like 130. for you girls out there that are getting pissed, hey im sorry. i work out very hard and i got a little belly fat. its b/c i dont do any cardio. just to give you some specs, im about 5'10 207, bench 365, deadlift 410 etc. i dont piss around in the gym. even if the girl would at least work out. i just want a girl with a good body. . how can i really get her to do it permanently? help me out

Answer 1

It's a tricky question really. I do know that I have never met a woman who is encouraged by criticism. So it seems unlikely that she is going to respond to things like "you would be sexy if you weighed forty pounds less." Speaking from experience, the more sexy and appreciated I feel, the more likely I am to feel inspired to be even better.

It is important to figure out what is preventing her from working out. Is she happy with the way she looks? Or would she like to change, but just doesn't like exercise in general? If it is the former, you might try to focus on the health aspects of being overweight. You can tell her she is beautiful and that you care about her and want her to be healthy for a long time. If it is the latter, you can be understanding, and tell her you would like to help her find a type of exercise that she can stick with although you know it can be hard. Consider buying her a few sessions with a personal trainer to get her started.

The bottom line is that if she doesn't want to change, she won't. If that is the case, you will have to decide whether her weight problem is something you can live with.

Answer 2

She just needs some help. First step is to get her motivated, but take caution in this step because this is where the defenses are the most easily raised. The appeal of her body to you must not be that important to her. So you will have to find other ways to motivate her. Thing is she might be kind of intimidated by the thought of you in the gym. First step is to get her to go with you. Second would be to just get her to try out some things. Don't have her use the testosterone approach like us guys do. Basic stuff to begin with. Find out what she likes and dislikes at the gym. Encourage the things she likes. Once you get her to go a few times. You might ask her if she feels any different in general, and then if she feels any different shortly after working out. Kind of like the next day. "How's your energy today?", or "How did you sleep last night?". If she indicates there is some sort of difference then that would be a good time to encourage working out more and explain that it was from working out.

She most likely gives up on the tapes cuz they don't give her the effects quick enough. If this is the case then maybe she needs to hear that some parts of the work-out life can be hard work. Those ladies on the tapes have been doing it for months and even years.

I do know people that have lost 60 pounds in 1 month because they became so determined to loose it that they worked themself so hard that they were almost sweating 24/7. Which I know not everyone can handle that but anything that will make you sweat will cause you to shed pounds. And I'm sure you know that the harder you work while sweating can be better because the building of muscle will tap into stored energy which is what fat basically is.

All in all, just be encouraging and get her to come along and if you have to, do those starting things with her so she doesn't feel so awkward.

Hope this helps.

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Answer 4

You were able to put up with her weight for 3 years now and has it gotten worse or did she maintain her weight? If she is still gaining it then tell her you are worried of the repercussions of those additional weight on her. That's your best bet of getting her attention. Having said that she should not be negative about your comments because you are in a relationship and you both take care of each other. She should instead tell you why it is so difficult for her to work out. I don't work out either but I do watch my diet when I see that I can't fit into my clothes anymore. Bottomline of all these is that you would love each other no matter what; the physical aspect should only be given a weighted average of 10% in the entire relationship. My man would be the handsomest and sexiest among the many because I love him.

Answer 5

Guy, make an evening to go to the gym together. Or, encourage her to join dance class with you or some of her friends. Exercizing alone is sometimes hard for people who can't get into a habit of it. SO, help her out a little, or try another route-here's a thought; I wanted to try something different after years of just doing Kung Fu, and decided to try something fun on the nights I'm not training. Pole dancing was the answer for me (and it also gives my boyfriend something to look forward to at home now and again-put this way I have 2 routines that are his favourites!!) Two years later I'm more confident in myself and after I joined loads of my friends did too, so we all go to classes together. I'm not saying go buy your bird a pole and tell her to get cracking in the family room, and I know its not everyone ideal way to spend an evening. My point is ANY form of dancing is great fun and you can do it together-ask her if she wants to enrol in a Salsa dancing class with you (it'll keep her motivated if you join together) and watch the weight fall off her if she agrees to try.

Answer 6

you're a tall woman so which you weight would be heavier then shorter women. yet all that concerns is in the journey that your pleased with your self! the perfect thank you to shed extra pounds is to do it gradually. supply up eating all the junk nutrition. East extra healthy which comprise vegetables, fruit, protein and carbs. yet in basic terms particular quantities of each and every. Then on the tip of a week reward your self to chocolate or some thing in case you have eaten nicely the completed week. additionally exercising daily is widespread! you will see outcomes quickly! stable good fortune!

Answer 7

I don't see your relationship working in the long run.
She was OK when she was chunky and now she is a little more and you are having a problem with it.
It's OK to be attracted to thinner women. The problem is no matter how you handle this, The Female Nazis are going to tear you apart.
You cant win. Accept her for who and what she is no matter how big she gets, or break off with her. They don't give you a 3rd option. Sorry

Answer 8

Criticism will get you no where. So, hopefully your not telling her this in the manner you are us. She is comfortable with who she is. I know your not and want someone smaller. So, learn to suggestion without criticism.

Go for walks with her. Ask her to pack a lunch and head for the beach. Go take her dancing. Camping. Playing tennis, I like Frisbee and badminton. I keep them in the trunk.

You have her attention already. You make it fun and do it with her and you'll have your good body. Lookin and smiling right back at you having fun. good luck

Answer 9

I know if my guy is on a work out streak, I get on my P's and Q's!, and join him! But at the same time, I have never had a guy complain about my weight either. The only thing I could suggest is, get her out and moving! Tennis, swimming, volley ball. Do activities that require exercise....if that doesn't work, well you know there's other forms of exercise!

Answer 10

Dude, start her off slowly...realize that time you spend with her does NOT count as your workout time.

Get her off her butt and just walking...get her some dumb bells and start her off just going thru the motions...she has to do this for six weeks before it will become a habit to her...so after about 3 months of this...take her to the gym with her and help her out with her own workout plan...

Do you have buddies who have wives and g/f's who need to workout? Get 'em together...get them motivated.

Take her to Vegas if she dedicates one hour per day to fitness...walking one day, light lifting the other...

Make it part of her daily regiment, reward her for the effort, not the results...too many people emphasize the results...the results will come if you put in the effort.

Good luck.