What would be a sign that a girlfriend that you live with has cheated?

Question

We get along great and never fight and everything seems pretty good but she travels for the job that she does and a couple of months ago she took a trip and a male co worker had to go with her that she hadnt met before. It was a 9 day trip and she called me everynight. They stayed in seperate hotel rooms but for the times when they wasnt working they ate together lunch and dinner. She had origanilly thought that he wasnt going to be going but he told her that he was going along to help. One night he offered to come to her room to help do some paper work. I got upset and said he better not over the phone. At the end of the trip he gave her a jacket. That was weird. The night she got back she cried when we was laying together which I thought strange. She never did that before on trips taken. I ask her what was wrong and she said nothing. She tells me still she wants to marry me all the time but Im not sure if I can trust her yet and im confused about the whole thing. what do you think?

Answer 1

This is terrible and i hope not the case but how do you know he didn't force himself on her, if anything happened at all. If she has always been faithful, and has been a loving girlfriend and sensitive to your needs as it seems she has been. Then I would let go of my doubts and wait until she felt comfortable enough to discuss it with me. I'd make sure to discuss it with her again, not confrontational but with concern and get her to open up to me. I highly doubt she's cheating. You didn't say she was sneaking making strange phone calls or distracted when talking to you on the phone, or that her and this guy were flirty or extremely awkward around each other. Do something like send her flowers, if she did anything wrong she may feel the need to tell you after you show her affection. good luck.

Answer 2

You are right sounding the alarm. The jacket and the crying are signs to me. I would sit her down and tell her if she doesnt come clean there will be no longer term future for the relationship. If she comes clean and admits to an affair then deal with in in one of the many ways you have at ahand either leave or work it out. If she doesnt cop to it then just delay asking her to marry you till you are certain that she is worth your time. Make sure she is honest and trustworthy. Good luck to you.

Answer 3

I agree with the first one... Sounds like she does love you and feels guilty....

It looks like something bad really happened and she just don't know how to break it to u or if she should.

Worst case scenario she cheated on u.

But it could also be:

She invited him without telling you and he made a move on her in her room and felt like maybe she shoulve listened to you.

But from your story it sounds like she cheated on you and afraid u to say anything.

Good luck!
Give her space and let her clear her mind and tell her to open up. Communication is one of the most important things in a relationship. Tell her whatever it is you'll do ur best to help her work wit whatever it is.

Answer 4

I think that if she cried that might be a sign of it. but other signs would be that she dont want to get close to you anymore like hugg or kiss or anything like that. and you should see how she acts around the guy, if you ever go around them together. you would be able to tell by the way she talks to him and the way she looks at him....

Answer 5

firstly if its a work thing you have no right to tell her he cant go to her room, secondly you should trust her until she does something wrong, she is with you and wants to marry you says alot really, but her crying is a bit odd

Answer 6

Uh-oh. Sounds like she feels guilty about something. Which proves that she does love you. good luck.

Answer 7

ask her.

if you can't express your feelings and communicate, what is the use?