ive been going out with my bf for nearly 4months now, he livs in telford and i liv in middlesbrough(bout 3 hrs away) we never see each other, as my parents dont let me out becos they r strict and wud kill me if they found out about him, thing is he relii lvs me n cums dwn jus once a month, i lv him too, jus that i havnt spoken to him all week, n i feel wer driftin apart. i dont want that, what shud i do? wha can i do to make us closer again?
2007-03-16 06:03:28 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Lets face it, no - they do not work. And even if one does work, when you finally get together and see each other everyday, it'll probably fall apart! Sorry.
2007-03-16 06:15:31 · answer #1 · answered by finch 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a long distance relationship with my boyfriend...i live near middlesbrough...i live in thornaby and my boyfriend lives a few minutes away from telford! ...that's a bit mad lol! Anyway he is also in the armed forces and we only see each other about 2 weeks per 3 months, but we talk every night on the phone, over the computer and text! I go to see him at work...and go and stay with his parents too. But by the sounds of it you cant go and see him then? But It can work if you are both committed to it, and want it to work. Like you said, you both love each other so there is no reason why it cant...It just means that a lot of trust has to go into it...because without trust it doesn't work!
Good luck x
2007-03-16 06:38:28 · answer #2 · answered by Danni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know why but I just felt that you probably are a very young girl (below 20). And your story tells me that you have no idea what love is. What you feel is some kind of infatuation for this friend of yours. This feeling could get stronger and meaningful when you do keep in touch with him constantly to know all his ups and downs. But there is a catch! The feeling called love should come from deep within your heart where you feel for him even when he's not around or is angry with you or made you cry some how. Moreover within your heart you should also feel that the way you feel for him....he's also feeling for you the same. then only things do work out. But above all its the Almighty God who decides your fate and if your faith and wish are strong enough....dont you worry ....you two will make it to the end and start a new beginning of your marriage life.....My prayers remain for you both
2007-03-16 06:23:26 · answer #3 · answered by Simplicity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough situation and one that 98% of the time dont work out but sometimes can. If you really care for this guy and he cares for you the best you can do Is just try to talk to him more often or email each other. Your situation is a bit tougher since you have strict parents to deal with which limits the time you do have together even more. Just let your guy know how you feel. Mabe he feels the same way and you guys can figure things out together. And If you guys do drift apart well they always say things happen for the best reason so mabe the guy your supposed to be with is still out there. Good luck girl!
2007-03-16 06:08:56 · answer #4 · answered by Jessica B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hiya. A tricky question. Try and find out if he really does love you. One test is to stop getting in contact with him and see after how long he gets back to you. try being protective over him, as if anything was to happen e.g. breaking up, you would have nothing to lose. Basically do not be a slave for him, as you never know over 4 months what kind of guy he is. I mean due to the fact you are both so far apart, how sure are you that he doesnt date other girls ?
Good luck, hope my advice works.
Would like to chat with you, so drop me a mail if you want x
2007-03-16 06:19:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont imagine everyone needs to have a lengthy distance relationship. existence occurs and receives in the way, you basically ought to artwork round it. If someone should be with their lengthy distance BF or GF adequate/or they love them adequate, they are going to bypass to the position the different individual is and end the lengthy distance issue. those those who've relationships over the web or out of state "basically because" are likely dropping their time. lengthy distance relationships wont very last if there isnt dedication.
2016-12-02 02:30:45 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Harjit not sure how old you are but you sound young anyway so concentrate on your school or college and see him when you can its probably better he lives far, enjoy your freedom while you got it because when your parents decide its time to get married then you will be glad you had your freedom when you did.
Also if he is also a sikh which I am assuming you are then why does he not propose or are you too young?
Good luck with it all ;-)
Peace
2007-03-16 06:30:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, they do work out sometimes. Depends on how committed you are to each other, and how keen you really are to make it work. Don't just give it up because he lives in some other town.
Sometimes people living in different countries make it work as well. You're in a better situation than that.
You really need to talk to your parents about this thing. Don't hide it, because if they find out in some other way it will be far worse.
Best of luck to you.
2007-03-16 06:16:49 · answer #8 · answered by lee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes they work, it all depends on the couple. I had a relationship with a guy in Ireland (met him when he lived & worked over here), we were engaged and together 2 years. We took it in turns to go across to each other.......we split up
2007-03-16 06:13:41 · answer #9 · answered by cavviecath 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i definately think they do. me and my bloke are living proof that it does worlk. we have been together for about 6 months and live over 2 hours a way. when we see each other (as often as possible) it makes it more special. we speak multiple times daily on the phone, and ensure we enjoy every minute when we are together.
2007-03-16 07:15:17 · answer #10 · answered by miranda w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋