been under the impression that everything was ok. I was still clearly upset, but didn't want to talk anymore. I had pulled over so I wouldnt have to drive while upset in the dark, on the phone and crying so I just wanted go home. We covered pretty much everything. FYI- He left his cell in my car and I looked through it. He had some questionable texts and I told him I saw them. This isnt the 1st time. He said he didint feel bad because I shouldnt have snooped. Also, he said something like if I cant handle what I might find, then I shouldnt pry. I told him he had complete disregaurd for our relationship and me. I said it was disrespectful for him to carry on like that & say such things to a girl who isnt me. Keep in mind this is ONLY what I have concrete proof of- who knows what else he's done that I'm oblivious to. I told him a relationship cant work if I have these suspicions of him (that have been proven right MORE than once), & if he cant trust me to not snoop. Any breakup advice?
2007-03-16 05:50:57 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I could say just deal with it. But go with your Instinct because It is hardly ever wrong. Take It from me I just got out of a relationship with a guy who was doing the same thing to me and he said almost the same exact thing. I just got to the point where my self esteem and my own worth was more Important than hanging onto somebody that wasnt ready for a commited relationship. Best thing you can do Is tell him you want to break things off. You deserve better then that and you know it. Good luck
2007-03-16 05:55:48 · answer #1 · answered by Jessica B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break ups are hard, and even with the suspicions you have, it will break your heart.
Still, I think you should meet him in person (in a place reachable by other people, if you are afraid he might do something) and tell him with confidence that you are sick of the way he is treating you, the phone messages, and his responses that are so silly to hear, and you have decided to break up with him because you can't put up with the headache any more. Once you are done, wish him luck and say goodbye. Change your cell phone no. and home no. to show him that you are really done with him.
Go to your parent's house, stay a night or two just to have company (friends are good too), and then focus on yourself and your life ahead of you. Don't lose control over yourself and crack down. One day you will find someone who loves you for the person you are, and commit to you and his relationship with you.
2007-03-16 06:01:30 · answer #2 · answered by peachy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea totally get rid of him. i'm so sorry girl, but anyone who tells you it isn't right to snoop and your together is wrong. your together, whats his is yours and whats yours is his, so it's not snooping. it's snooping to people who have to hide things. if my hubby ever said that to me i'd dump him, and fast. Don't get me wrong, it'll probably be really really hard but you need to realize he's doin this crap b/c he's not the type of man for a commitment. everything you said to him over the phone is completely true and don't let him tell you otherwise. you're not stupid!!! Here, test something out. Go find another guy you want to date and purposely text the person the way he is to this other girl, and LET HIM find it. See how he reacts, he'll either get really mad or not care. Either way prove your point and move on. GOOD LUCK
2007-03-16 06:00:21 · answer #3 · answered by Gillespie's Helo Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like he denied anything just that if you wouldn't have snooped you wouldn't have known what he was doing.
I know this hurts really bad right now but just tell him calmly that the relationship is over, you can't handle what you keep finding and are going to walk away. And then don't talk to him again unless you want to go round and round and round the same mountain. It does stop hurting and it stops hurting faster if you have no contact with him.
You're going to be fine - it may not seem like it now but you really will be fine.
2007-03-16 05:57:28 · answer #4 · answered by Stefka 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG! THE SAME THING HAPPENED TO ME LAST NIGHT! He hung up after an argument that we were having. With your situation though, i'm on your side. I don't believe it's snooping...he just got caught. Follow your instincts and do what you believe is right. If you feel that he isn't being true and he can't even "talk" to you about this anymore, move on. Remember that every woman is a princess and needs to be treated with RESEPCT no matter how upset he is at you - hope i helped!
PS: Can you help me with my question?
2007-03-16 05:56:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is right. u shouldn't have snooped. when u go lookin for things u might find what u don't like and get upset. until things start to happen in the open or he starts to make phone calls and hang up when u come in then u stress and question him. so now u gotto talk about this. he wasn't worried aboutthe left phone cause aint nothin to hide
2007-03-16 05:55:36 · answer #6 · answered by yolanda c 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are scared of him, do it on the phone, but if not do it face to face. Just sit him down (of pause on the phone) then say "wow we have had some great times, but lately i really dont know if you feel the same way that i feel for you, I had so much fun with you and we went on crazy adventures (to make him smile), then just say i think we need to stop seeing eachother. If he starts to blow up just go im sorry, but i know what you did.....yadadadad....and then kiss him on the cheek and leave leaving him wanting for more, but still calm.
2007-03-16 05:55:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't be with anyone you don't trust regardless of if you have a reason or not. The point is you don't trust him. You can't spend your life like that. If you feel that you have reasons then you probably do. Ask anyone who has dealt with a cheating partner and they will all tell you they should have know the entire time, they chose not to.
2007-03-16 05:55:20 · answer #8 · answered by Tam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him and quickly. If he cannot show respect for women, and especially you, right now, he never will. It's disgusting when men treat women like objects...they should be reminded that it was a woman who gave birth to them, grew them up and loved them.
You don't deserve this trash man. Put your garbage in the dump. Clean yourself up and move on.
2007-03-16 06:03:23 · answer #9 · answered by Mimi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
JUST DO IT!! You don't need that crap in your life. Not only is he being disrespectful, he has no disregard for your relationship or your feelings. Why would you want to be in a relationship like that? The only advice you need is....do it - yesterday!
2007-03-16 05:56:54 · answer #10 · answered by Kailey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋