I visit him all the time any chance I get,and he calls me auntie.I'm 28 now,and he's about 14 now,and the older he's gotten,he's a spliting image of me,and he's getting curious he thinks my godmother is his mother,and for years I want to tell him I'm his real mother,but afraid to.Do you think it's now the time to tell him,and do you think he'll still love me?
2007-03-16 05:50:15 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
You should discuss this with your Godmother. SHE is his mother because she is the one that raised him and legally you really need to go through her. If she says no you have to wait until he is 18.
2007-03-16 05:57:07 · answer #1 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Really this decision is between you and your godmother. Also take in to consideration the major SHOCK this will be on him. Then he will ask all sorts of questions like 'why did you give me away?' and etc.
He does have a right to know he has been adopted. And I think that the responsibility of telling him is the godmother's. It may be easier on him. You can't really go up to him and say, "hey, you are my son...not hers." It would be easier if SHE told him. Or you told him TOGETHER.
I think that he will still love you, considering that although you gave him up, you still took the time to see him and be a part of his life. Most kids that are adopted never see their real parents. And I think everyone has the right to know who they really are and where they come from.
Good luck to you in this. I'm sure it will all work out!!
2007-03-16 06:33:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had thought about it myself sometime I ever is something like this, however I'm not.
So had a baby when you 14, I sure you had a reason and you gave it up for adoption for a best life.
Of course he will very important I case of health or medicine reason. I say go and tell him that you are his real mother. I sure if he love before and will continue to love even after.
You had your reason on why you give him up for adoption.
But first and foremost talk with the Godmother first due to legally reason. Only if he is under 18.
Since he is 28 go straight to him with the godmother there as well for support and help to clear up the understanding.
So good luck with that.
2007-03-16 06:10:46 · answer #3 · answered by njnowell 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you made the right decision in the adoption process and am glad you see him alot however he does have a right to know. How will it effect him if you told him? If you both are emotionally ready to be a family then yes he should be told but also talk to your godmother see how she feels maybe it would be easier if you both told him together good luck he will love you no matter what and he will understand if he acts funny it is because this is news to him that he has never expected but is also a teen.
2007-03-16 06:05:01 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 00:00:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to your godmother first. She is the one raising him after all. You don't want to disrespect her by telling him without her approval. You are lucky that you had someone in your life willing to do that for you! See how she feels! Good Luck and I am sure that your son will understand.
2007-03-16 07:13:03 · answer #6 · answered by BeThAnY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the time to have told him has long past. He should have known from the very beginning. Now on top of puberty you're going to add this...I feel very sorry for the boy. As for your last question, how would you feel if after 14 years someone FINALLY tells you the truth?
2007-03-16 06:16:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a brother/cousin whom my
mom and dad reared when his
mother didn't want him until he was
in the tenth or so grade His dad
worked overseas ans he was my brother
tnen his mom wanted and gained him
it hurt my parents and he felt dissaprovement
now he's my cuzin/brother but enjoys the fact
people still know him as my parents SON
Conversate alot with Gmother and son and
everything should be alright
2007-03-16 06:08:54 · answer #8 · answered by manoman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The opposite happened to my husband... he thought his step-dad was his real dad. He found out who his real dad was during a vicious custody battle with the step dad. (He was fighting my hubbys mother for full custody... didn't happen) His mom finally just sat him down and said "Jim isn't your real dad... Johnny is." This has MESSED my husband up TO THIS DAY. He was 12 then. He's 32 now. Think about it before you do it. Consider all sides, PLEASE!!!!!
2007-03-16 06:01:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes its time he knew, and explain the fact that you were too young to raise a child.
2007-03-16 07:22:46 · answer #10 · answered by Granny 1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋