I've been dating my boyfriend 5 years, is there a future?

Question

I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years and known him for 9 years. I am 24 he is 23. We are both still virgins, wow, right? It has been hard for both of us believe me. I wanted to wait till I was married, which he was ok with, but he says he's not ready to marry or even thinking about marriage until he has a career (he wants to be an actor/writer) and has something to offer me. We have an awsome realationship and trust one another completely. I understand were he is coming from but I know he does have committment issues (his mom went through 3 marriages). He says he never wants to have to go through that. Do you think he is telling the truth or is it more he is scared of commiting? I have been also thinking about having sex with him because I do love him, and I really want to but I am scared I will regret it. I think even if we don't get married to him I would be happy I did it, I don't know. It's hard because I have no complaints. Does anyone have any advice or similar circumstance?

Answer 1

you need to have an honest talk with him and find out for yourself. you might have a future you might not.

Answer 2

Wow! that's a lot to take in, no wonder you are questioning things. Do you love him? Is he worth the wait? If so, then stay with him but realize that it may not pay off in the end.

If you wait until he's established a career then I think you'll be waiting a long time. The best time for couples is getting through the "tough, lean" years. Life is too short! If you two love each other, jump into this together and lean on each other for support and love. Too much can happen while you wait for things to be "perfect".

If you do have sex, use PROTECTION!! If you love him, I don't think you'll regret having the sex. Plus, think of this... what if you have sex with him and it's really bad. Do you want to spend the rest of your life with one guy who is a bad lover?

Good luck.

Answer 3

most likely.