Since i born my mom yell at home every single day for at least 4 hours,that can affect me now?

Question

My mom is always been depress,negative and self-destructive,as an adult i have anxiety.I,m taking medication for the anxiety and i feel much better.I want to know if the behavior of my mom is the cause of my problem,or is all genetics,i need an answer

Answer 1

I think it's a little bit of both. You are going to be predisposed to acting and raising your children the same way she did, so seek therapy well in advance.

Answer 2

I am a firm believer that although the experiences of our childhood do affect us, we have the free agency to choose to either change their hold on us, or remain held captive in them. We do have the power to change the course in our lives, when we take the courageous steps to face the past, fears of childhood can no longer hold us captive. And, the fears we once faced never are as scary as we made them seem in reality when we do. Your mother may have had her own demons to face of her past, don't let them take hold of you. Love and understanding for both of you is a key too to healing. Although you are anxious now, meditate and get deep within yourself, feel the fears , know the root cause and visualize an assistant to walk with you, stand by you to find your own inner strength and come out of the past into your healthy carefree future of strength and courage.. It will be a problem if you hold on to the past. YOU are seeking answers that is good, The new question is, will you take the journey to find the answers? that is living.. keep smiling:) Looking back of my life i have come to realize that those good and challenging in my life , have come my way in some way to help teach me in the experiences of. though some may not have been as pleasant or without pain , they each helped to build the character and person i am today. I choose in life the choices i make, even those i defaulted to others to empower over me, i have chosen.. I therefore hold alone the key to my future, my successes. Life is a test we can not fail at.. for every experience is a teacher , write boldly the letters on the chalkboard of life... I am .. not a failure , nor less than i dream, i am all hope, and practicing each day to be the person i want to be.. I am success.. i am free and strong..

Answer 3

hi,

having lived with a very abusive mother too, i think that half of the problem is caused by living with your mother, half by genetics. living with such a negative person IS STRESSFUL. BUT some people genetically OVERREACT to stress. i moved out of my mum's place and felt much better after that. when we are happier with ourselves, we find it easier to deal with unhappy people. your mother needs your love and help, after you have fixed yourself up. you will feel better about yourself when you can forgive her and move on.

there is always a win-win solution.

hope that helps.

Answer 4

i think it's both
but, see a doc to make sure