have been with my bf for 2 months(im 20,hes 24)When I first met him i kept hearing that he really liked me.we started talking on the phone and i started to hangout with him and his friends every weekend.he asked me out a month after i met him and things were awesome,he wanted to spend LOTS of time with me,took me to meet his parents & ALL his friends etc.but now he's very distant he still calls everyday,but i rarely see him hes always with his buddies.we live 30 min away and only i drive(which i dont mind).On tues,he really opened up to me and he told me how his ex cheated on him and how he wants to get his life together and start a career,but then he goes out drinking.Ive told him how i feel and he tells me he really cares about me and i shouldnt worry and hes 'not going anywhere'.I told him it seems like he doesnt really care about me and he said if he didnt why would he take me to his parents,which is true BUT,why do u think hes acting like this?I dont understand what changed!
2007-03-16 05:29:31 · 6 answers · asked by sallyh 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Guys lie! There is a chance hes cheating, if hes anything like my ex. That is what he started doing and I was totally naive to the situation and didnt realize what was goin on. Then a little while later, after he told me im the one he wants to marry and have his kids and im the only one for him, etc....., he cheated and she moved in with him in the house WE picked out! Then a year or two later, once I moved on from my heart ache, he was callin, tryin to get back with me! So, they always come back! Hopefully, like me, when you've moved on! You learn from every experience. Every guy you date is a learning experience. You're finding yourself and finding what you like and dont like for 'the one'... So there will be many guys that come and go. But hold on if you get a keeper! You will just know...he will make you happy every day, and do all he can to keep you happy! You deserve only the best, and there is a guy who will give you the best! So, do whatever makes you happy! Its not good if you have to question what hes doing...but then again, its only been two months. So, youre still getting to know little things about him. Good luck
2007-03-16 05:39:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dunno, I mean that whole "hey we're a new couple" thing does wear off eventually, but within 2 months seems kinda quick for the "honeymoon" to already be over.
My guess would just be that his ex really hurt him and kinda screwed with his head a little bit, causing him to build up a "trust" wall. It was all clicking at first because it was the start and that's always the easy part, but maybe now that you guys are developing something stronger (meeting parents and whatnot) he might just be trying to distance himself/play it safe considering how the last time he was really close to someone, he got screwed over.
Regardless of the reasoning, you don't deserve to have some of these thoughts running through your head so soon. Try and talk to him and get a better feel for where he's at (not so much his feelings for you but you need to just calmly talk to him about his time management/priorities)...make sure he knows the way you feel about wanting to see him more (just try and shape your conversation off as a positive agenda like wanting to spend more time with him and less towards attacking/questioning his choices of choosing his friends over you ~ and if you find yourself having the same conversation weeks from now then try and be a little more aggresive).
While spending separate time with friends is important, he should still be devoting time to you and giving you attention you deserve. Phone calls every day works but it's not the same as being together, and it can't be a crutch to put too much weight on. You guys could be completely in love with each other, but if you rarely see each other things will sour.
Best of luck with whatever direction you choose!
2007-03-16 12:52:37 · answer #2 · answered by Critter Rocks 1014 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both are young, and it sounds to me like he really enjoys spending time with you,and his comment about"he's not going anywhere just sounds to me like he wants to let you know that he will be there for a while.My advice to you at your age would just be to not try and over analyze the situation too much.Just have fun,and if it feels good,enjoy it. Try spending any free time you have with your own friends and interests. If he thinks that you might be "going somewhere" he might give you a more specific answer to where he thinks your relationship is headed.Best of Luck.
2007-03-16 12:45:46 · answer #3 · answered by Nikara 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He changed over time. He REALLY cares for you, it could be you overreacting. You should make a little day where you two can get together and spend time for the whole day. Good luck. :)
2007-03-16 12:36:47 · answer #4 · answered by Dreamer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The new has worn off and he feels he has you hooked in. So now he can go do his thing and not worry about losing you.
Dumb, I know.
2007-03-16 12:32:55 · answer #5 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it could be ur overacting. everyone needs time to hang with their friends not only the ones they care about.
2007-03-16 12:40:55 · answer #6 · answered by ღ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋