There are a lot of books on courtship in a christian setting and many couples do not kiss until they are pronouced man and wife. That is very beautiful and they save themselves for marraige. But do you think Christian courships preapre you for marraige because I notice that the current theme to this courtship menatlity is that if you wait on Gods timing you will be blessed? I think with the way the divorce rate is I think counsellers in the church need to be more frank and honest with couples about what a couple will face in marraige exspecially finacially marraige is expensive. Do you think christian coursthips prepare a couple for all that they will face
when they are married? What is your take on this?
2007-03-16 05:26:10 · 10 answers · asked by encourager4God 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Yes they do. In pre marital counseling we (at least the credible ones) cover topics like sex, finances, and a lot more very thoroughly.
On the other side dating and jumping from relationship to relationship is nothing more then practice for divorce.
2007-03-16 05:33:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
When I got married for the second time, I took Pre-Canna classes which was one of the prerequisites to get married in the Catholic church. Now this seemed foolish to me because first of all, it was my second marriage and I already had children. The subjects that were discussed were about sex/children birth control, money, raising children up to be good Catholics etc. My view on courtship sounds nice but that was what my mother did for over 3 years as a so called good Catholic. Now I am talking about back in the early 50's. Well, to make a long story short, my father was abusive, bisexual and God only knows what else. And because she was Catholic and was brainwashed by the church, she stayed with him until she cracked up. She was that paranoid about going to hell. Priests don't get married so how in the hell can they counsel on marriage? Marriage itself is only a public ceremony with legal papers attached. If you are truly in love, you will hopefully know it. And by the way, I ended up divorced because the professing good Catholic I married was abusive. What does God say to you about this? I don't believe anything can actually prepare anyone for marriage. There are way too many things that happen that catch you by surprise no matter how sincere you are. These are called lessons and through these lessons, you can learn. Sad but true.That's just the way life is.
2007-03-16 05:49:39 · answer #2 · answered by meganzopf 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I believe christian courtships somewhat prepares you for marriage. You will not know a whole lot about marriage until you are actually married and then you'll know more as the years goes by. All christian churches should prepare a couple who are going to venture into this wedding bliss - in the area of: do you believe this is God's will for him/her to be together, finances, children, etc... and that it's not base on: well I should get marry because I don't want to burn in my flesh. Talk to your pastor (both) and pray for God's counseling.
2007-03-16 05:38:33 · answer #3 · answered by Rose 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am unclear as to why you have come to believe that what you describe as courtship is Christian? It sound Victorian to me.
Most westerners simply do not want to consider what sort of a society we would have if we were to live lives in which the divorce rate were low. We are not, especially we Americans, willing to explore what sort of familial relationships we would have to have in order to keep the divorce rate low.
HTH
Charles
2007-03-16 05:38:12 · answer #4 · answered by Charles 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-04-23 06:21:25 · answer #5 · answered by ayako 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no sin in kissing before marriage! Where did you get that idea from? I believe in waiting. I know several couples who were both virgins (Yes both the husband and the wife virgins!) And they are still married after many many years!
2007-03-16 10:37:45 · answer #6 · answered by Pamela V 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Courtship is to see if you actually want to marry someone. If you do then you get engaged & then marriage. I think that sometimes authors tend to replace the tradtions & practices of every faith.
2007-03-16 05:31:52 · answer #7 · answered by Julia B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Under the right guidelines (You choose what's right for you and your partner), Christian courtships can be quite fulfilling.
2007-03-16 05:30:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Nope. Marriage should not be your first adult relationship; it is to tricky to have any hope of getting it right te first time. Pre-marital abstinence does not have any track record of yielding better marriages.
2007-03-16 05:30:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 5⤋
Statistically, christian marriages don't fare very well.
The majority end in divorce.
2007-03-16 05:30:03 · answer #10 · answered by Samurai Jack 6 · 0⤊ 6⤋