How do you avoid some people who really annoy you???

Question

Some people annoy me to the extreme not everyone what do you think.

Answer 1

I think everyone has been there. I try to see the good in everyone, some you have to look really hard to see it, some you just can't find it. If that is the case, I pray that God would help me keep my mouth shut & be appropriate around said person.

Answer 2

I work with THE MOST ANNOYING HUMAN BEING in the universe, I also work as a server so I encounter many more annoying people on a daily basis. What has always worked for me is that I swear at them in my head alot. I say the most fowlest ugliest nastiest crap I can come up with...sometimes it even makes me laugh at some of the things that come to mind. It helps me vent without opening my mouth. I always wonder what would happen if I did that to a person I didn't know had ESP, get my butt kicked i guess

Answer 3

If you are forced to be around them, say at work or school and dealing with them is an absolute must then just be very quiet around them. If they ask questions, you keep the answer very short. If they are personal questions just say I am not comfortable discussing that or I am really busy right now I dont have time to talk, sorry. That way after a while they will get then hint that you are unavailable and leave you alone.

Answer 4

i have a similar situation. as an interim step i have been lucky enough not to bump into the person very much, and for now, have chosen not to participate in activities where he might show up. during this time i have been working on my skills. the big ah-ha for me came when i realized that most everyone has certain behaviors that i might find annoying, and it's ok for me not to like or even tolerate those behaviors.

so here is where i am at: first, i've decided that it is ok for me not to like certain behaviors; these behaviors range from annoying to toxic (i.e abuse); second, it's ok for me to assert personal boundaries around those behaviors, regardless of who exhibits them (in my case a member of my family of origin); third, i will assert boudaries honestly and respectfully. That's my part. That's what I can do. If the person has an emotional reaction, one way or another, that's their stuff. I can control the effort not the outcome. No matter how respectful I try to be in my interaction with them, I just have to let go of their reaction.

I also pick how much energy i think it is worth investing in a relationship. i've learned that people have the ability to change if they want to, but i'm not going to count on it. if i detect a strong pattern of a certain behavior that i just don't llike my boudary setting will still be honest and respectful, but i will use a higher escalation right from the start than with someone i think there might be more of a potential with, although, eventually i may have to escalate my boudary setting with them too.

During this interim period I have been using this approach with other people to gain experience and it seems to work. I notice that the people who do not want to change specific behaviors interacting with me, don't interact as much. A few people have acknowledge my dislike for certain behaviors and have tried to change when interacting with me. But I know for this one person "I can never over-prepare and I will never be ready." So I'm working myself towards my first interaction in a long time with this person.

some resources that have helped me alot:

Co-Dependents Anonymous (www.coda.org)

Book "Nonviolent Communication" http://www.amazon.com/Nonviolent-Communication-Marshall-B-Rosenberg/dp/1892005026/ref=pd_bbs_sr_2/104-2392795-0803955?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1174063616&sr=8-2

hope that's helpful

Answer 5

Explain to them politely that they REALLY annoy you and ask them to keep at least a minimum distance from you if possible. They might be hurt at first but if they are civil it will work out. If they are a jerk then you might have a problem that will merely prove why you didnt' want them near you to begin with and provides you with a second and less sweet way to tell them to get lost. It will also justify your actions to others should that be an influence on you.

Answer 6

You will never really be able to avoid an annoying person,they're everywhere,the best thing to do is take them in smaller portions at any given time.

Answer 7

It depends if it's friends of friends or people at work. Just avoid the people outside of work, or limit conversation with them. I've found that sometimes I have to listen to music to tune out the people at work. Days when I'm tired I just can't deal with it.

Answer 8

Don't just ignore them. That's really mean. It's better to be busy when they are near or ask you to do something. It may be a lie but it's kinder than ignoring.

Answer 9

I know what you mean,try to ignore them if you can't avoid them.

Answer 10

ignore them and let them know that ur ignoring them, they wont bother with u an vice versa!