I moved out and now my mom acts distant when I go visit her and our relationship just isn't close to what it used to be
can anybody tell me why?
2007-03-16 05:21:09 · 15 answers · asked by danity0414 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
she misses you...and it's hard to let someone you love go..she will be fine..just include her more in your life..and call her when you need to make a decision..even if you know the answer already..let her feel needed again...
2007-03-16 05:27:22 · answer #1 · answered by Danielle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because I am not a physic the best advice I can give it to approach this as grown up and mature as possible invite your mother out to a cup of coffee and sit her down , tell her how you feel. She may not even be aware that this is affecting you. even more so she may feel like your not her little boy any more you are a young man this is depressing to some mothers to know there kids don't really need them so much any more. Even though they need them now more then ever. SO I urge you to truly talk to her show her your all grown up and reassure her that you still need and love and even want her in your life that in some way she is your best friend and you don't want to lose that.
2007-03-16 13:05:32 · answer #2 · answered by savannah_smiles25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be several reasons. She probably took it as insult or if you guys argued right before you moved out it could be that. My suggestion is to continue visiting her talk to her. Even if you think she's not listening. The best thing would be to go out for lunch or dinner. It doesn't have to be expensive. And talk to her. Tell her how this wasn't a move to hurt her. But you needed to be out on your own and it doesn't mean that you don't need a mom etc. I wish you the best.
2007-03-16 12:27:53 · answer #3 · answered by rencar32002 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably feels that since you moved out you have dropped her out of your life. More than likely she is feeling jealous of your new life without her. Give her time she'll get use to it. You should expect your relationship to change with your mother as you get older. Not that you love them less but your mom is now realizing that you don't need them as much. Just reassure her that you still love her and always will.
2007-03-16 14:12:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she just realize that one day you will go, and this is the time. She is very upset, the way to handle her problem is to be faraway from you. Thats what she taught.
You have to show her no matter how far you go the love still there. Proof to her the relationship still the same and its unchange between you and her. She just feel unneeded anymore thats why.
2007-03-16 12:35:58 · answer #5 · answered by ironlady42 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a little empty nest syndrom. Do you have other siblings. Also sound like she may as weired as this sound is disappointed that you made it on your own, you dont need her anymore and that (being a mom) even though we don't want to admit it is what makes get up and do all the things we do. We have to do this because our children need us to do this. And now you don't.
2007-03-16 12:28:59 · answer #6 · answered by ppetss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is hard on most mothers when their children leave home. Even though your mother knew the day would come. Give her some time to adjust it may take several months. Its important for you to keep on trying to stay close to her. She will eventually come around.
2007-03-16 12:27:39 · answer #7 · answered by Janst 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not just moms... but parents act like they have to protect their children all the time. your mom maybe feels as if you don't need her anymore and that she loves you and is scared at the same time. It'll get easier with time... just reassure your mom that you love her and that she raised you to be a great person. Besides, she had to leave her parents at one time... true? good luck.
2007-03-16 12:35:20 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she feels like you deserted her and you don't want to be around. Try and talk to her. That's your mother and you only get one, so make the best of it. You be the bigger person, and just tell her that you want to go back to the way things were!
2007-03-16 12:55:21 · answer #9 · answered by muslimah4life91 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's how mom's act in the beginning..especially if you lived with them for a while....she will get over it soon...don't stop visiting her...try to call her everyday and if you can stop by everyday or every other day.....once you become a mother you'll understand you mother....take care
2007-03-16 12:30:28 · answer #10 · answered by olive oil 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋