We met and really hit it off then for no apparent reason i didn't hear from him for eight weeks. Out of the blue he got back in touch, told me he loved me, couldn't get me out of his mind and that he hadn't been in touch cos he was scared of getting tied down but he'd realised that's what he needed. He's said he wants to be with me forever, take me away for a weekend, and so on - it was all going so well. Now a week after getting back in touch he's vanished again. His e mail account's been discontinued. We haven't slept together so it's not like he's just been after that. I'm very confused. Is he just scared? Can any guys out there give me some insight into what's going on with him? And what should i do? I love him and and don't want to give up on him but life is short and i don't want to waste time waiting on something that might not happen. Thanks for your help.
2007-03-16 05:19:30 · 24 answers · asked by moonworshipper 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Either he is extremely scared of commitment or he's married. Either way, you need him to be honest with you. He's messing you around by disappearing like that all the time.
Tell him if he really wants you, he has to stop vanishing and coming back. You need stability in your life, not someone that comes and goes as they please.
2007-03-16 05:24:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is messing you around ast this early stage, I fear you have a kind of game player type guy. It could be that he is scared of commitment, again not such a good sign, there could be a milion and one reasons why he has not been in contact. However sorry to say this but if he really did care about you then I think he would have been in touch, as he would know you were hurting and would really want to avoid that. My advise would be pull back now and sort out yourself, find a guy that will love and respect you and not play your emotions.
Good Luck
2007-03-16 05:26:11 · answer #2 · answered by djp6314 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spend your time on something that will happen. He didnt talk to you for 8 wks! how can he honestly say he loves you? You fall in love the more time you spend communicating and having fun with another person. He is providing nothing for a real connection and he should be ashamed for decieving you and make you wait for nothing. Is this love he's expressing? Just cause you 2 hit it off doesnt mean you 2 are made for ea.other. Sometimes guys will tell girls things like he told you just to rationalize their actions in order to make themselves feel better: insincerety.
2007-03-16 05:36:40 · answer #3 · answered by element_op 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, so which you're 20 -- that makes him 38. He replaced into 18 once you have been born. permit's in basic terms positioned that aside for a 2d and communicate approximately how nicely you ought to in all probability comprehend Mr. 38 on line. i'm guessing no longer nicely adequate to paintings out marriage themes in basic terms yet. you're finding it demanding to communicate which comprise your mothers and dads when you consider which you comprehend deep down interior in basic terms how insane this finished ingredient is. circulate to college. circulate out which comprise your persons. stay off the laptop. have relaxing being 20. stay faraway from 38-3 hundred and sixty 5 days-old cyber web singles.
2016-10-02 05:39:10 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably does like you but either he does not know what he wants, married, or has a girlfriend, cause that does not make sense. And he supposebly loves you then he will trust you and won't be afraid to let you in. Don't wait too long for this guy cause he might come back and everything's alright, but then he might leave again and you don't want to get hurt.
2007-03-16 05:27:35 · answer #5 · answered by tai&amc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not a guy but I can understand the horrible feelings left when someone disappears.
When someone disappears I take it to mean they aren't worth any trouble. No matter if he is telling the truth or not, he isn't acting in a mature, respectful manner and thats all you need to know. We women make too many excuses for men. Don't waste any more time on this guy.
2007-03-16 05:25:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its because you havent slept together, thats what he was after. Give it another while and when hes going through a dry patch he will be in touch again to see if he can get any further this time.
2007-03-16 05:38:26 · answer #7 · answered by callywag2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is so Married My bet is that he is also older than you and done this before. What you are feeling is infatuation because he gave you that warm fuzzy feeling, because he knows what he is doing. That is why he didn't try to sleep wiyh you so you would think he was a toatal gentleman HA.
Move on and when he comes back into your life, and he will, you just tell him that you have moved on and can't put up with someone that you can't trust.
Good Luck
2007-03-16 05:36:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on, this guys is a waste of time. If he contacts you gain I would ask him what his game is! Certainly don't contact him. Now go out there and have yourself a great weekend hunny x
2007-03-16 05:51:46 · answer #9 · answered by farleyjackmaster 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would be careful,and really start looking elsewere.he sounds to shady and strange to me. get ur self a man thats around all the time,that way u know his background and his life style..differently stay away from the vanishing act guy..gl
2007-03-16 05:28:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋