I want to be there for her but is seems as though all the free time i have is taken up by her problems and so i can never had a chance to deal with my own problems i never get to think about thing that I want to do, She is always talking about some boy that broke her heart or about how she is going to break someone else heart. Should I leave her or should i help?
2007-03-16 05:14:54 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
talk to her about how it makes you feel and set some guidelines....but always be there for her.
2007-03-16 05:19:24 · answer #1 · answered by Lovelee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly cherish the friendship the 2 of you have, let her know how you feel. When you tell her, you don't necessarily have to be harsh about it. "I think the guys you've been dealing with are no good, you're forever dealing with some sort of heartache because of these guys and I think you're better than that. Maybe you should sit back and think about what you really want out of a relationship, b/c the right guy might have been in front of your face this entire time." And then if that doesn't work, after that just continue to tell her, I told you you're moving extremely to fast and try to change the subject. Good Luck
2007-03-16 12:21:13 · answer #2 · answered by bre714 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should let her own her own problems. A friend of mine, very close friend, often asks me "what should I do?" My response is invariably, "I can't tell you what to do."
If you need time for yourself, make this clear. Friendship is like any other relationship; it's give and take. If you don't have this, the end result is resentment. You'll resent her for monopolizing your time; she'll resent you if your advice doesn't help.
You can try this: repackage some of her issues and present them to her as your problems. I don't know this person, but it sounds like she's selfish. Get her to focus on someone else's problems (presumably a friend's) and see if it doesn't help her see her own problems more clearly.
2007-03-16 12:30:52 · answer #3 · answered by M R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to her about how you feel. A real friend won't turn their backs on another friend. My best friend & I have been friends for over 17years and never once has either of us turned our backs on each other. If a friend truns their bacd on you, what are you leaving for the enemies to do.
2007-03-16 12:20:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love her, you'd stay around and do everything you can for her. be there for her always. thats what a friend is. eventually she might realize what a nice guy you are and maybe you may get the chance to spend the rest of your life with her :)
2007-03-16 12:19:25 · answer #5 · answered by Deformation Age 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell her that she is beginning to cloud you... that you are not into drama and problems all the time... that you need your space of peace and quiet... you can only do so much, but her issues are starting to stress you out... dont do that...
2007-03-16 12:20:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should give up because she will keep nagging you
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2007-03-16 12:19:23 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stick up for her
2007-03-16 12:17:51 · answer #8 · answered by Allison M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she is your real friend she will understand...
2007-03-16 12:18:09 · answer #9 · answered by Danielle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋