but is confusing me - daily. The other night he acted like he wanted to be together said we will take trips this summer we had sex.
Last night I asked why he had sex with me and he said I am just chilling I have already told you that I want to take it slow and there is no one else.
We have dated off and on for 6 years. We were living together 3 months ago and split up.
I thought he wanted to reconcile but now I am not so sure?
He said we just needed to take it slow and everything will be ok.
2007-03-16 05:13:58 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hi
I guess his definition of slow is to see you when he needs to chill ( sex) . Which is not right at all . You love him but his feelings for you are wavering and sounds like he is indecisive about what he wants from you .
Honey , please wake up and smell the coffee it seems that when someone knows you have feelings for them they like to take advantage of you and they promise you all sorts of things just to get you to sleep with them and after its all said and done they switch up on you with the quickness ( act differently)
There is someone out there for everyone and you don't deserve the cold shoulder he is giving you . I guarantee if you refuse to sleep with him he will know for sure he ain't all that .
Good Luck
C
2007-03-16 05:29:00 · answer #1 · answered by Constance M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well let him take it "as slow" as he wants. But I wouldn't be giving up the goodies to someone that needs to take it slow.
And more than likely he is out seeing someone else. Slowly but surely I would get over him. and move on.
Six years is a longg time ans I know you have alot of feelings for him, but he seems to be playing games to me, and that's something you don't need, no matter how long you been with someone.
Find you a friend that will help take your mind off him, because he's probably done the same.
2007-03-16 12:19:26 · answer #2 · answered by heaven_forsaken_dark_poet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you already know the answer to this question.
He wants you to be his *ahem* boink buddy. He told you what he thought you wanted to hear about plans for the future, but as soon as he got what he wanted it all of a sudden was "just chillin". That is an incredibly jerky thing to say.
The best thing you can do for yourself is to cut him out of your life completely, you deserve better than some guy who just wants to screw you on his own terms.
Deep down I think you know he's lying to you and manipulating you. Go with your gut, tell him you're through, if he's got a key to your place change the locks, stop accepting his phone calls, take some time to take care of you. You don't need his drama.
2007-03-16 12:23:09 · answer #3 · answered by Laureling 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a trip with just your friends and don't call him for the entire time you're gone (or even think about him if you can manage it). See if he changes his tune about taking it slow after you two don't talk for a week. I'd say if he's genuinely interested, it ought to change.
2007-03-16 12:24:40 · answer #4 · answered by randyken 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, he just says thing like that so you would give him some booty... He knows what he want, which is to find other girls to date... Since no girl has come a long yet, he's just using you... I am sorry to say, but it what I feel that he's doing to you.. So love yourself and don't let him treat you this bad... Lose contact with this guy, he's just bad news all over.... take care
2007-03-16 12:20:25 · answer #5 · answered by Rain L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow its been slow enough hasen't it? 6 years? he is using you, I have no idea how a person can think like this. I mean he want's sex but thats it in a relationship? That's exactly how my ex thinks.... I don't understand it. I think it's sad and he doesn't know what he wants out of a relationship.
2007-03-16 12:22:45 · answer #6 · answered by Deformation Age 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes takin advantage of u and u need 2 tell someone like ur best friend. than break up with him and see some1 else so he cant talk u into gettin back together
2007-03-16 12:20:30 · answer #7 · answered by Vanessa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to tell you this, but sometimes people need to hear the truth.
He wanted sex, so he said nice things to you that he knew you wanted to hear, and it worked.
Move on to a guy who really cares about you and wants to be with you for you.
2007-03-16 12:19:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to move on, you are allowing your self-respect to go right out the window. Read your own story and then answer yourself
2007-03-16 12:20:03 · answer #9 · answered by Khalil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I had been dating a guy for over six years, I would expect to be his princess. Thats what you should be.
2007-03-16 12:18:00 · answer #10 · answered by Ms.Trouble 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋