Is it a sign of abuse or need of attention? because my bf was upset bout me sayin we wouldn't work out, he ended up crying but i did nothing about it. Then he asked why I thought we weren't gunna work and he did the whole holding me down thing.
2007-03-16 05:06:47 · 37 answers · asked by tina h 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
break up. break up. break up... before he trys to kill you.. seriously..
2007-03-16 05:11:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
most guys would be hurt and not know what to do when a girl cools down the relationship.
they will be sad and quiet, trying to figure out the situation, what to do from here and so forth.
but yours decided to strike and that is not a good sign.
he will probably be the type to become more violent if you keep him. and his violence will come at the strangest times.
saying something he doesn't want to hear, talking back, not agreeing with him, looking at another guy, walking away while he is still talking to you. anything that causes him for feel inferior will make him strike again and again.
if you can handle an abusive relationship then I would say try to figure out what is making him this way and work on it.
if not, then I would say goodby by long distance and try not to get stuck with him alone ever again.
good luck in what you choose.
2007-03-16 05:48:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
RUN AWAY!!
DON'T LOOK BACK, USE YOUR HEAD!!!
This is only the beginning and of course he cried he wants you to feel like he didn't mean to do it. But don't believe it while that may be truth I can almost guarantee that he will not learn to control himself in the future. You are in the first stages of being an abused woman. Get out while you still have a chance!! And if he is insist ant and aggressive call the cops let him know you mean business.
Don't make the mistake of feeling sorry for him.
You can't believe him he isn't in control of himself he just wants to be in control of you.
Don't be fooled.
I am begging you to get rid of this guy you don't want to be a statistic you have a chance take it!
2007-03-16 05:16:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did this scare you? If so, maybe you should file a restraining order. Once someone hurts you once, they're GOING to do it again. He may have said he was sorry or was just acting out of anger & didn't mean it. Whatever the case was, it's still NO EXCUSE for doing what he did. Anyway, it sounds like you weren't too thrilled about the relationship before his abuse, so get as far away as possible! I ended my marraige because of a situation just like this. RESPECT yourself! Don't allow him to do this to you.
2007-03-16 05:12:34 · answer #4 · answered by Roland'sMommy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here in America, that would be a form of abuse. I'd stay away from him. Even if he begs you to get back together with him. If he snapped and did that to you now, what would he do later down the line. Find someone else that respects you!
2007-03-16 05:21:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES that is a sign of abuse. Anytime any man or woman treats you like that-touching you without permission in a angry fashion is related to abuse. Break up with the freak and move on. I would.
2007-03-16 05:13:03 · answer #6 · answered by MOM OF ONE 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is abuse. Be careful with this boy- sounds like he could seriously- really hurt you. You need to tell your parents (how old r u?) and just stay away from him. You should not continue in a relationship with this guy because stuff like this gets worse!
2007-03-16 05:13:35 · answer #7 · answered by Amy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run far away and with haste ,do not stop and do not look back, find a good man and be mindful of the lesson that you just learned, when you see red flags like this again you will know to be strong and just walk away
2007-03-16 05:57:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out, now. Tell him it's over, mean it. Stay away from him. If he keeps pursuing you, especially if he makes threats or is violent again, get a restraining order. Tears mean nothing.
Only the lowest form of human being uses force to get his way with a woman. His behavior is a glaring red warning sign, behavior like this always escalates.
Get out Get out Get out!
2007-03-16 05:16:10 · answer #9 · answered by Laureling 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been in 2 very abusive relationships and that is precisely how they started - I tried to end it and they couldn't handle it; do whatever you have to do to stay away from him - use whatever resources you have to cut ties with him; friends, family, church or anyone else you know. I promise you honey, it WILL NEVER stop or get better. God bless, and good luck.
2007-03-16 05:13:11 · answer #10 · answered by Laura 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It IS abuse!!!!
No one has the right to do ANY physical harm to you. You are right to end the relationship NOW.
If that is how he is now when he is upset, letting him "get away with it" will only prove to allow him to escalate his abuse in the future.
2007-03-16 05:12:20 · answer #11 · answered by Nepetarias 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋