Should i wait or call her?

Question

I have been hanging out with this one girl for the last 3-4 weeks, it went very very good at the beginning. However, i guess i have rushed too fast. I was going to set up a very nice romantic date but i guess she got werid out about it because she just broke up with ex about 2 months ago. Things got a little bit downhill and she doesnt seem as interested in me as before and now i am the active one who does all the texting and calling. Now, i have heard that she likes some other guy and she is going to prom with someone( she grauated a semester early and she goes to college now). we are on springbreak now, the last time i talked to her was exactly a week ago. it was me who texted her but she didnt text me back. I also called her that night because i got bored driving, however she didnt call back, i still didnt hear from her the whole break. Now here is the question, should i wait for her to call or text me and tell me whats going on? or I should call her to ask whats going on?

Answer 1

You should wait for her to text/call you. If she has feelings for you, she will miss you and then try to contact you. Frankly, its not wise for you to get into a relationship with her. Afterall, she only just broke up with her ex and she is still trying to get over her ex. Let her recover first and let nature takes its course.

If you really love her, give her space and be by her side. She will be touched and fall in love with you eventually. Good luck!

Answer 2

I would let this one go. She is sending you a very clear message that she is not that interested or she is training you to take it a little slower.

Either way you look at it, you need to approach this with tact. Many women don't like to be smothered...they like to be the smotherers.

Just lay off the phone and text messaging for a while and let her sort things out...don't listen to rumors or gossip...it will only hurt you and make for assumptions that may not even be true.

Just follow your heart, but don't be a stalker, remember you have only been in this relationship for a few weeks, it is too early to be taking things so seriously.

If need be, just move on and find someone new. It is better to find out now that she isn't the right one for you than later when it could get more painful.

Good Luck!

Answer 3

WAIT a while. If you've become the only one doing all of the calling and texting, that's a pretty good indication of where her feelings for you are - basically friendship. If you continue to call and call and call and then text too - you come across as desperate and possibly a bit stalkerish (I'm sure you are niether, but you WILL appear to be). Give the idea of a relationship with her a rest - if even for just 2 or 3 days - then make a call - ONE call and see how that conversation feels.

Good luck!

Answer 4

Nah don't call. She's not interested if she doesn't have the decency to retun your calls or text back, now you're hearing she might like another guy. Unfortunatley girls are that way sometimes when we're not interested in a guy we just brush off and ignore them. Someday there will be a girl that will reciprocate.
PS. Most girls are going to give you the advice that they do to guys who don't like them and they just end up bugging the guy. I'm jusy telling you like it is so don't call her. And if she does like you she'll wonder why you haven't called then you can say what you need to say to her.

Answer 5

Neither. It sounds to me that she is giving you the cold shoulder and if you do talk to her, she'll say, "it's not you it's me", or "I'm just going through a confusing time right now". She doesn't seem to know how to tell you so she isn't going to tell you. She seems like she isn't ready for anything right now. She probably used you for a rebound, but never meant for anything more to come out of it. Sorry, I would just leave it alone, understand that you weren't wrong for having feelings for her and move on to someone who is more mature than her.

Answer 6

Do what you want? If you are normally a fast past guy then call her and ask what is going on.. If you are a slow take it easy guy then you can wait and bring it up slowly. Give her hits. Like I am a good cook. Dinner at my house is fab. And so on... Just do what you want and things should turn out ok.. Just don't rush her.. She may get afraid and nervous.

Answer 7

I would call.... I know that situation cuz i'm in that same boat.... I've been waiting almost 6 days for him to call me back.
If I call and he doesn't pick up,
I am going to text him saying: "i'm confused about you, but it's ok. things happen for a reason, I just wish I knew what happened and why. But I aint trippen, life goes on."

Answer 8

Don't call her! The earlier you learn this, the better: It's always better to let it go. Either she'll miss you and call you again and you haven't come off desperate, or she'll move on and you haven't come off desperate. No matter what, if you call or text again, she'll talk about it to her friends. Let her call you if she's interested.

Answer 9

I think you should ask her bout her feelings to you cause you need to make clear this situation
if she won't answer to you or she will ignore you again say her bye bye - no one deserves such relation
of course I can and (you too) understand that she just broke up but it's not a reason to ignore your attention to her
she's not only one gal in this world - move on and ask her what's going on!

Answer 10

I think you should move on - you are coming on too strong. If it's meant to be she'll call you back.

Sorry - but I know these things. 25 years of dating has taught me a thing or two.