Hypothetical question about adopting out my 5 year old?

Question

First of all, happy St. Patricks day to all! (Even if I am a day off!)

My weaker but absolutely above average half Nermina and I have 2 children. Our five year old son Amir and our 8 year old daughter Mirela. My wife is a native European, so you know she is a little above average from the get go.

The highlight of my banal family is my daughter. A chip off the old block, I sense that she will be a dynamic leader someday, and will make some guy a fantastic wife. She is already reading theology, and sometimes will even correct me! She is an A student, very gregarious, and well learned.

My son Amir is just there, doing whatever it is that he does. Sometimes he still scribbles, for Chrimity sakes. His deepest thought is whether or not some crappy cartoon is funny or not.

Hypothetically, if a person wanted to put a child up for adoption, is that possible? Or would that get the government all worried about the whole family?

Blessings.

Answer 1

You could try to force him to re-organize his thoughts...condition...maybe Skinneresque...pain/reward.

Or varied degrees of sleep pressure experimentation with forced learning and reward systems imposed...subliminal suggetion has proven sucessful too.

Importantly, if you find Amir boring, make it fun for you!

Think Guantomino without the lock-up...psy-ops.

Answer 2

Hypothetically speaking, a 5 year previous located for adoption using exhibiting an mind that does no longer stay as much as or exceed parental expectancies or face as much as assessment of yet another older sibling might maximum possibly reason examine of the entire kinfolk. extra it might very in all probability inspire the officers in charge for such matters, to eliminate all different babies from the parental abode besides. The essence of parental rights does no longer enable for babies of standard intelligence to be discarded as a producer might discard a 'defective' product. someplace interior the parental gene pool standard intelligence lies, inspite of the incontrovertible fact that a frequently psychological person, whilst top parented, can and frequently does exceed previous that of even exceptionally intelligent persons. Tossing a 5 year previous into the equipment to in all probability become lost interior the fray or worse, places into question the authentic mind of the mum and dad.

Answer 3

I hope this is a joke, but if it isn't....you should definitely get your son out of your home and into one that will actually love and care for him before he is emotionally damaged by your horrible attitude. I'd say your daughter needs a better home too. As far as I know, you can put your child up for adoption if you want to--you don't even have to get the government involved. There are lots of private adoption agencies. I think your son sounds wonderful the way he is; it is a shame you can't love him for who he is, and a shame that he will grow up thinking it the blame is his instead of placing it where it truly belongs--on you.

Answer 4

You are so funny but I'll answer the question for you. A friend of mine adopted three kids while they were small. They children are not related. They were foster kids. When they got the oldest girl she was 14 months old and sexually molested. Her mother was retarded from birth and the father has degenerative brain disease. They took the little girl to a noted child psychiatrist to have her evaluated as they were afraid she would inherit something. He said she was fine, right on task for her age but if anything went wrong later he would see her for treatment. It's really hard to get a kid into him so that was a sort of big deal. Fast foward a few years and you guessed it. She was just horrible to the other kids, hurt babies they had in foster care, abused family pets and it only got worse from there. She wanted to kill the whole family so she took the smoke detectors down and put them under pillows in her closet, then piled towels in around the hot water heater. My son is in that field so we were asking him questions and he had us ask her if she heard voices or saw things that were different and she said she did. The voices were telling her to kill all of them but especially the 9 year old boy. My friend did everything to get her in to someone-the Dr who had promised them help for one but when he "couldn't" work her in, they tried everywhere but there was a long waiting list and few would even call her back. When the violence escalated, my son suggested checking her into the hospital's psych unit through the emergency room. The Dr who saw her there talked to her and she told him about the voices, the lights she was seeing, the voices telling her to kill and he admitted her with a diagnosis of Schitzophrenia. they evaluated her in the hospital and said the same as they can now diagnose it in kids as young as 12. They kept her for a few days and wanted to send her home to be on a waiting list for treatment. They refused to take her home. My friend was not even sleeping because she was so scared this kid would kill them all. She has had over 50 foster kids in her home and realized it was only a matter of time before the girl got done what she wanted to do. Social Services stepped in and took custudy of her and filed child abandonment charges against my friend and her husband. They were treated terrible by even the judge when they went to court but they were able to relinquish her, finally. The lawyer bills put them into bankruptcy. The child in now in the 9th foster home and all were considered pre-adoptive as she seems like just a very beautiful sweet girl. Once the honeymoon period is over, they all have her moved. She is on a lot of medication and is still nutty as a fruitcake and getting worse. So, if you think you can just dump a birth child, think twice. And save up for the attorney fees. Good Luck and God Bless

Answer 5

Oh boy. People need to get the acorn out of their asses. This is a funny post.

Hypothetically speaking of course if you wanted to give up Amir you can and the government would care, that's called "child protective services' and as usual they would stick their noses in your business.

Happy St. Paddy's Day to you ...even if I am a day short too!

Answer 6

Maybe they should adopt you out. You should love your children just the way they are. Each child is unique and should have their own personality. Five years should be playing and learn from their environment and family. Not all children have the same interest or development. So what you really want are clones of you not happy unique well adjusted children.

Answer 7

Wow.

Okay.

You're daughter is EIGHT? That's amazing.

Your son is FIVE. He is SUPPOSED to be scribbling and watching cartoons. While your daughter may be a prodigy, your son is exactly where he needs to be. If you just gave him away, what kind of integrity would that teach him?

The adoption program is for people who can't raise a child, not for people who don't LIKE their children. Deal with him, and LOVE HIM.

Answer 8

First of all-children are a blessing from God---It even says in the Bible that, Blessed is the man whose quiver is full....
I think adoption is an option...... I could not see trying to give up my own child becuase of a 5 year olds tendencies....boys are different from girls and boys tend to mature at slower pace.....thats just boys...
Don't adopt out your child, just because he is not on the same pace as your daughter and please don't compare him to his sister...God made us all different and rightly so, would you like it if everyone compared you to one of your family members and then plastered it all over the internet for the world to see.....be careful not to compare, kids are smart and whether you know it or not, they take these things to heart and as they get older it will come out in aggression or even suicide attempts to get the attention that they need from there parents......
Again don't compare siblings and don't give any more attention to one sibling over the other.......

Answer 9

Kermit,

You are truly brilliant. I love the way you mix piety with sexism, ageism, racism and egoism!!! Now that I understand you, I wish to apologize for really taking it to you on a last posting of your...the one where you asked how you could save the children of Atheists...
Brilliant wit man. Whats even funnier - how many serious responses you receive from fundies who actually DO think like that...

Im ROTFLMAO at these responses....seems everyone thinks youre completely serious!!

Answer 10

What an abhorrent thought.

But if you can't love your son and will constantly be pouring your affection out only to your daughter as your post implies, it is possible he would be better off without you.