Are brides supposed to have a bridal shower with just girls, and also have a wedding shower, with everybody, and an engagement party to announce the engagemant? What is the spacing for a bridal shower and a wedding shower? Like 2 months before the wedding, or like a month after he proposes?
2007-03-16 04:56:19 · 17 answers · asked by blueflower1156 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I have never heard of a wedding shower. That just sounds plain greedy. Engagement parties are just to announce the engagement to your immediate families, who are not there to give you gifts, but to congratulate you. The bridal shower is usually a month before the wedding. I have elected to go without any of these.
2007-03-16 05:02:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
A bridal shower and wedding shower are the same thing. It is usually 1-2 months before the wedding. It is optional-- most brides do not need to have a shower these days (showers are for those who would have trouble setting up a household without others' help-- like a very young bride who have never lived on her own before). Also by etiquette a shower can ONLY be hosted by a non-family member (groom's family counts, too).
Engagement parties are usually given by the bride's family. Again, the couple does not NEED to have an engagement party. It is optional. Gifts are not given at an engagement party.
Anyone invited to a shower OR an engagement party MUST also be invited to the wedding.
2007-03-16 05:18:20 · answer #2 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The engagement party is first, a month or two after the proposal.
I know plenty of people who have more than one bridal shower. It's not greedy; they have one where they live now and one in their hometown. This way people don't have to travel (especially if it is a long distance). Also, I have been to a "couples shower" instead of a bridal shower. In this case, both the bride and groom were present. I liked this idea a lot because it included both men and women and the groom received cute gifts as well.
Regardless, do not plan any parties yourself. Others should host these parties for you, and if they don't then don't bring it up! They are not mandatory, they are an added bonus.
2007-03-16 07:22:41 · answer #3 · answered by duritzgirl4 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Bridal and wedding shower are the same thing. The Engagement party should be done within 30 days of the announcement and the shower would be 30 to 45 days before the wedding depending on your bach party's.
2007-03-17 14:12:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A bridal shower and wedding shower are the same thing. That's wear all the women and girls of all ages get together at someone's house for snackies, dainties, games and gift-opening. This is about four to six weeks before the wedding.
Not everyone has an engagement party. This is usually at someone's home, whoever is throwing the party (not the couple), there are drinks and snacks, no gifts. Just a time for the wedding party and spouses to meet family members.
2007-03-16 10:35:52 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Traditionally the grooms parents would host an engagement party, within a months time, for the immediate family and members of the wedding party to congratulate you on your engagement.
Traditionally a Bridal Shower is usually hosted by the Maid of Honor and bridesmaids and both the brides and grooms family women attend.
A Wedding shower is more contemporary and is hosted by the entire wedding party for both the bride and groom. Both friends and family of the Bride and Groom attend. This is nice because it gives them another opportunity to socialize before the wedding.
How do you choose? Really depends on what your status is, are you living together? If so you probably don't need toasters and such. If you are still living with your parents you will want those essentials for your new home. If you and your groom are living in separate apartments you may again not want toasters, etc. Regardless of what your situation is you are in charge of what gifts you get by registering well in advance of any showers. Be sure whomever hosts the party includes your registration information.
A wedding shower can be fun for the couple because it is all your friends and family. Talk to your guy and get his opinion.
Other showers would be you co-workers, etc. People outside of your close friends and family.
Good luck!
2007-03-16 06:37:13 · answer #6 · answered by Believe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have 2 have an engagement party. A lot of people don't do engagement parties, but I think they are fun and would go ahead and have it. But it is acceptable to have gifts be optional at an engagement party. I've seen many people bring gifts to them. And some of those people will not come to the wedding shower so they prefer to bring a gift then. You can host it yourself if you want to(and no its not tacky), but traditionally the parents host it. And you can have just one shower instead of 2-- if u want. I had a wedding shower that men & women were invited to --and then I had a bachelorette party with my girls.... I used it like my bridal shower --we went out and my girls brought gifts. Women have the bridal party with only girls usually bcuz the girls like to clown & bring lingerie and gag gifts(which can be inappropriate in front of all company).In any event I would have an engagement party 1-2 mos. after the engagement and the showers 2 mos. ahead of the wedding. You are going to need that last month to wrap up wedding preparations & having to worry about a bunch of showers @ the same time is going to push u over the edge. That last month is killer!
2007-03-16 05:38:55 · answer #7 · answered by boolissa2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One bridal shower is enough. Engagement party is fine. Bridal shower is about 1 1/2 months before wedding.
2007-03-17 11:00:48 · answer #8 · answered by cardgirl2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Engagement party is hosted by you if you want one to announce your engagement... It use to be a think that only really rich people did but are more common no but most people skip them. You have this about 1-2 months after getting engaged.
Wedding shower?? No such thing. You just get bridal shower but sometime people call it a wedding shower if they have it co-ed but you don't normally have both. You don't plan this- it will be family and friends. Normally held 2-3 months before your wedding.
2007-03-16 05:49:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bridal shower and wedding shower are the same thing. Bridal = wedding.
The only place I have ever heard of people having engagement parties is on the Knot. I have never once met anyone in real life who had one.
Neither of them are mandatory. However the bridal/wedding shower is typically held 2-3 months before the wedding.
2007-03-16 05:18:06 · answer #10 · answered by Cinnamon 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋