where is my daddy?

Question

my ma left my pa b4 my 1st birthday an she has been happily married to my step dad for 17 years now and says i dont need to no my real father so she will not give me any info about him! all i no is he is called jimmy charleton an he lives in ayr in scotland but he actually comes from county tyrone in n.ireland. if any1 can offer any help on how i may locate him i would really really appreciate it!

just to make it a little clearer, i am now 24 years old, my mum says she left my father bcos he was lazy and spent all his money on the races. she left him just over 23 yr ago then married my step dad!thanx for all ur answers so far!!!! xxxxxx

Answer 1

Pop into your local Salvation Army and explain as they do a huge amount of work in that area. It may be your Dad does not want to be found so be prepared for that just in case. You can also have a look at Census returns to see if he is on one b ut that will be a massive job. Seventeen years is not too long to trace someone so go for it and good luck and hope it works out for you both.

Answer 2

Well if you have a name that's a start try doing an Internet search for the area that you believe is lives if you have any leads follow up with a phone call if you can or write a letter. But wow 17 years did you mom say why she left if he was abusive to her I say let it go but if not then why has he not contacted you did you mom keep you from him. If you are 18 then I think it is time to set your mom down and ask her to tell you the truth about everything. You are old enough o understand good or bad. She had to have a good reason for leaving you would think.

Answer 3

if you know his name and you can find out his date of birth then go to Friends reunited and put in his name and age something may come up about where he is now if not go to births marriages and deaths do the same type in name and age if known and see what comes up it may say he is married and where the ceremony took place good luck

Answer 4

write to the DSS, when youre 18 the info is availabe by law... she cant stop you finding your dad. also you can place an advert in the local paper, and most newspapers will run an article, human interest is far nicer than blood and snot...

oh, they wont give you his details, but htey will act as a go-between... the samaritans also do this service.

Answer 5

There is a website called 1stlocate and charge i think £7.50 to do a detailed search, once you do this you get addresses for everyone by this name, then you go onto the phonebook online,find the number that goes to the address and call them, its worth a try.

Answer 6

hi...sorry that your in this situation, i too have been there so i know how you feel.....i was given this link by a friend while i was trying to locate someone, it worked, but i am not sure if it will give you deails for Sotland or Ireland, but you can give it a try, just type his name in the box on the right, then his location underneath, good luck,

http://www.b4usearch.com/

Answer 7

You poor thing, you have an absolute right to know who your father is and I think your mother is wrong.
Try friends/genes reunited/local paper/salvation army/www.b4u.co.uk.
Best of luck, hope you find him.

Answer 8

mw to i hav ethe same story but ma daddy left me when i was like 6monts. and know i dont know where he is but i kno w that he dosent care about me bbecause he has a wife and kids and he doesnnt even send me money.

Answer 9

look on your birth certificate. His name will be there. There are websites that can help you locate your father...Good luck

Answer 10

Find a service, I know money may be an object, if you want it go do it, know.