am I in friend zone or more?

Question

there's this girl we've been friends for about 5 years I've dated her bestfriend about 3 years ago and I'm now going towards dating her. I think I'm past friend zone because I've pretty much taken the place of her boyfriend without being him..... She always talks to me about the hardships going on in her life, and every class that I'm in with her I notice her staring at me and she's always trying to get close and make eye contact me. Or she'll put her hand on my shoulder all the time when she sits behind me or draws hearts and smiley faces on my neck. Issue is that she's got a boyfriend... who she sees like 3-4 times a year. She always tells me how much she never talks to him and her friends pretty much say that the best their relationship is when they ask him or her is "I dunno".They tell me all the time how they are fighting most the time.I'm not in friendzone am I?I like her a lot and she seems to like me to because she's always talking to me or making eye contact and smiling. help?

I forget to add that her best friend and her are no longer friends.... Also, I tried to tell her that I liked her about 10 months ago and she said "well as you know, I've sort of got something going on, but the thing about you is you've always been important to me considering some others drifiting away..." (this was after her bf graduated) since then things with her bf have gone sour and things with her and I have gotten closer than ever before.

I forget to add that her best friend and her are no longer friends.... Also, I tried to tell her that I liked her about 10 months ago and she said "well as you know, I've sort of got something going on, but the thing about you is you've always been important to me considering some others drifiting away..." (this was after her bf graduated) since then things with her bf have gone sour and things with her and I have gotten closer than ever before.

Answer 1

go for it

Answer 2

You're in a pretty good position, I think. Ask her about her relationship with the other guy. Is she happy? What does she wish he would do/say differently?

Once you know those things you'll have an idea of what she wants in a relationship, and you can ask yourself if that's what you want too.

If it is, think about what you would like from her that's different from what she says/does with you now. If you think she can give you those things, then it's time to make a move.

Start small, and then watch her reaction. If she reacts the way you want, then keep doing the same. If she doesn't, try something else. If you play your cards right, she'll soon start thinking about you differently, even if she only thinks of you as a friend right now.

Answer 3

well only she can really answer that question but yes it does sound like she likes you more than a friend but before you get worked up you need to ask her just ask where this is going just say something like is it me or is our friend ship going to a higher level? and if so im on board with that if she says no leave it alone but say something like thats cool i just thought you wanted more because of the way you were acting

Answer 4

Hmm, you dated her best friend? You should tread carefully, my friend. If these girls are still friends and you move from one chick to another, you're going to cause problems between the two. That's no good. If she does like you and the two of you decide to go for it, make sure she talks to her friend.

Answer 5

tell her how you feel. and let her know that she deserves to be happy, not "i dunno" with this guy she never sees. let her know that you will make her happy. she seems to have some attraction towards you she is just too scared to say something. she is probably thinking the same thing, wondering if she is in friend zone also.
go for it. it never hurts to try