Please help me CRYING very upset VERY CONFUSED!?

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I'm very sorry this is so long I'm just VERY UPSET and need to let this out so please read!!!!

PLEASE I'M SO UPSET RIGHT NOW PLEASE!! i'm sorry i didn't mean for it to be this long i just need to let this all out!

PLEASE TAKE THE TIME TO READ THIS PLEASE!! I AM CRYING SO MUCH I CAN BARLEY TYPE!!!!

I have two best friends "Tori" and "Rachel." I'm a senior in high school. Tori and i got into a fight in the beginning of the year. She made fun of me because i thought Abraham Lincoln was black! (HE IS BLACK!!) I know i am right! I accident "swung at her" and hit her in the face. She had to get ice but it was on accident. I apologized to her about a million times. After that she went around to the whole school and told everyone how I had hit her and people have been making fun of me ever since! I am crying all the time because of that! Anyways recently within the past month she did apologize for her actions and has been sticking up for me quite a bit.

…this is where all of the problems start…Tori, Rachel, and I was all supposed to go to prom together with a group of other people! We had to buy tickets this week. Rachel Told me Tori and her boyfriend and everyone else to buy tickets on Wednesday. That was the last day to buy tickets. We all agreed to bring our money then. Tuesday while we were walking up to the field house for track practice Rachel was talking really badly about Tori calling her dumb and etc. Little did we realize that Tori was right behind us. So we get into the field house and Rachel dropped the bomb on me that neither me nor Tori nor her boyfriend were invited to prom anymore. She told us that she had already filled her table with 10 people, the limo was full and the hotel was booked already. She apologized for forgetting to tell us all of this. I was crying hysterically. I don’t have many friends and Rachel is my only one true friend. Now at that time I couldn’t go to prom because of it.

Tori then flipped out at Rachel and told her that she heard everything that she had said about her while we were walking to the field house. She then told me that Rachel was talking really really badly about me! She told me that Rachel said she did not want to go to the college she got into because she found out I would be attending there too. Tori then admitted that she had not always been the “best friend to me” but was recently sticking up for me. (WHICH SHE HAS BEEN) and that’s the truth. Any who Rachel denies ever saying that. She told me why she would ever say a thing like that if she was rooming with me at college. Which makes sense? Rachel then said she hadn’t always said “nice” things about me but she would never say anything like that.

I don’t know what to do now!! I’m so upset…now Tori said she’s not going to prom and going to go to her boyfriends prom at his school because she wants nothing to do with Rachel and is upset by what Rachel had done and wants to avoid drama. Tori invited me to go with her and her boyfriend to Virginia the day of our prom.

But…then Rachel said she had enough room for me in the limo and such on Wednesday the day I was buying the tickets so now I am going to prom! But I’m still upset by what happened. She wouldn’t Allow Tori to come but Tori said she doesn’t care anymore because all of this is childish drama that she refuses to get involved in.

A recent conversation i had with Tori

Tori: not to bring up an argument or anything...but...why don't you trust and believe what i told you about Rachel?

Me: b/c i myself do not have proof and i cannot accuse someone without valid proof
i know about the talking behind the back thing

Me: but there is not like any certain occassion where i can pinpoint and say she lied to me
thats y

Me: unless you can pinpoint a certain occassion at which both you and i were present and she lied to me, then i dont have reason to accuse her

Tori: no offense or anything but are you THAT BLIND? that you cannot see that she has been lying i'm not trying to be mean or a jerk or anything I'm just trying to be a friend right now and i don't want to see you get hurt in the long run

Me: lying about what an instancego ahead im listening if u said that u were going to stay out then please DO SO

Tori: ok do you REALLY HONESTLY belive that every single time you ask her to hang out she is babysitting? Honestly think about it logically. How often can someone babysit? I work with her and MANY TIMES she would tell you that she's working when in reality she's NOT THERE! You even said it YOURSELF she picks her other friends over you! So why would you choose to be friends with someone like that?

Me: b/c the babysitting i do believe her about
the work - i have no idea and she said that she is going to put forth more of an effort to hang out with me

Me: and i realized i really should not be talking to you about this b/c its not your business
so either bring up another subj. or i leave

Tori: fine i'm done trying to help you! Do not come back to me in a week complaing about how she hurt your feelings then!

Answer 1

First off, Abraham Lincoln is WHITE....if you don't know that one basic fact, I hate to think how little you have learned in school. Maybe you should forget about college and go back to grade 8.

Secondly, you and ALL your friends need to grow up. You are acting like a bunch of idiots over nothing. Who cares who said what about ANYONE??? Worry about something worthwhile.

Third...didn't anyone teach you that Ladies do not fight? Act like you have some class.

Answer 2

PLEASE DO NOT listen to anyone who says that its just childish drama and get over it. I know that this must be devasting to you and I know you probably can't see or believe that this will all be over and everything will be back to normal or better. First, just try to take a breath and relax. Yes you should go to your prom, you'll regret not going b/c of this later on, Trust me!!! Second, take a little while and really try to look back, as fairly as you can, at both "Rachel" & "Tori". Has either one of them ever "Been there for you", I mean REALLY been there? Can you trust either or both of them? When something happens either good or bad who is the one person that you just have to tell? If you can answer either "Rachel" or "Tori" to these question then sit down with that person and work it out. If you can't then just realize that they are not "TRUE" friends. True friends think of you b./4 themselves, they don't talk behind your back and they are always there to count on!!!! If you're going to your prom then you'll be off to college soon, believe me things change in college.

I am NOT minimizing how you feel, please, look at the BIG picture. You might be surpirsed that one of you other friend, someone that you might not have been that close to might just be that true friend. I really hope this helped. GOOD LUCK!! And go to your prom, if for nothing else you feel better getting dressed up and looking GREAT!!!!

Answer 3

Okay so that was a long editorial. Anyways, Abraham Lincoln is white to start off with. Second of all if you are about to go to college you do not need to fight with those two girl because you're about to leave home unless it's like a community college but if you go to a University that is close to home but rather large then you probably won't even see those girls.

Okay the prom issue, if you wanted to go you should be confident to go by yourself because if you can't go to prom by yourself then you aren't going to be able to do many things by yourself (which is a part of growing up).

And then lastly, sometimes people say things just to make you pick a side between the two, Just sit them both down and tell them that you aren't going to decide between the two of them and if they can't accept that then they were never true friends.

Good luck.

Answer 4

well to me it sounds like tori is right, i agree with her but then i dont know rachel and what shes lie so i cant really judge.

Answer 5

What's your point? I'm sure you can shorten all this up. No one wants to read all that stuff. Try again with a real question, please...and take the gum out, first.

Answer 6

I hate to inform you of this but........... I am a distant relative of Abe's. I did his family tree. He is white Hun.
Yes it is childish drama. I think you have done all you can do to fix this.

Answer 7

WOW!! AND YOU GIVE A SH.IT ABOUT ALL THIS DRAMA?!!

GROW UP!!