I dated a man for about a year. We broke up about five months ago and have recently again started talking. He would like to be friends and see where things go. I am all for that, I've missed him as a friend but am not sure if it is possible once you've had a romantic relationship with someone to go back to JUST being friends without the other benefits. Anyone have any good advise or gone through anything similar??
2007-03-16 04:08:28 · 5 answers · asked by T C 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When we started dating we were just both in the beginning of divorces and rushed into a relationship with each other. The past five months we've both dated other people and for some reason never forgot one another. Just not sure if it's hard to go back to a platonic relationship after having a very intimate one with someone. The past issues have been dealt with and talked about.
2007-03-16 06:57:30 · update #1
Yes you could be friends again as long as you both have put the past problems and issues behind you. Holding grudges would not ever help a friendship. Friendships are about loving and caring about the person regardless of things they may have done. It is not easy being a friend and that is why it is soo hard to find a true friend anymore. I do hope you and this person become good friends. You never know ....he could end up being the best friend you ever had. Good Luck!
2007-03-16 04:13:51 · answer #1 · answered by Spacey~Stacey's Place 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly speaking, highly unlikely. And you must consider the reasons for why you both broke up in the first place.
He said he wanted to be friends and see where things go. You dated him for a year. If he's not sure of you after 1 year, his feelings aren't going to change any time soon. God, he had 1 year to find out!
I do not trust his 'just being friends and see where it goes from here' speech. Sounds like he wants to be just friends with possible benefits. And those benefits don't mean a serious relationship or marriage. I don't see this working. But that's just my view.
2007-03-16 04:21:28 · answer #2 · answered by Bugsy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anything is possible...but the reality is not probable....feelings resurface...usually in one or both parties involved...but why did your relationship end in the first place? is it possible to rekindle what you felt in the first place?...sometimes if we reevaluate what went wrong we better understand the need to hang on to a connection with someone...maybe you lost track of a friendship somewhere during the relationship, and in trying it as friends again, you'll reconnect...but beware if only one harbors feelings for the other, because that only ends badly....can you handle if he talks of another woman...or can he handle if you speak of another man?...important questions to ask yourself...because that's what being a friend is about, being there for each other...new relationships included...choose wisely...and good luck, no matter what you decide....
2007-03-16 04:20:08 · answer #3 · answered by onekoolkat_31 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you have moved on, then it would be easier to be friends with him. but it would be better to acknowledge the friendship he's offering but don't expect much or you might break your heart-again. try going out with someone else and just enjoy!!!
2007-03-16 04:21:17 · answer #4 · answered by jan-na~♥~ and im luvin it 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah probably. i can
2007-03-16 04:18:34 · answer #5 · answered by 2Q 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋