Is Seems Like I'm Losing My Boyfriend?

Question

I'm Gonna Make This To The Point:
-Boyfriend and I very happy, Madly in Love.
-Talked on the phone EVERY night.
-Put me before everything.
-Said I was the most important thing.

....Ok now however, he got this new job and he works from the time he finishes classes until 12 am sometimes 1..
he doesn't call anymore, he only texts..and sometimes I don't hear from him at all. He doesn't make any free time for me. When he's not working, I still don't see him. I told him that I felt like our relatioship was fading and falling apart...and he said that he's doing everything he can to make it not fall apart (but he's not doing anything) and then he said he was sorry I felt that way but that's not how it is. He said if anything was wrong he would tell me and to stop feeling that way. I've hardly seen him in a month. I don't feel loved/important/cared about...anything. What should I do? He doesn't even tell me he misses me anymore but INSISTS that it's just temporary! Help! I feel lonely.

Answer 1

I don't think you're losing him really, but that he is just really busy. It seems like he's always either at work or school. If so most of his free time is probably spent sleeping or doing homework. He may still be adjusting to his new job and until he gets settled and can work out his schedule he may have to spend less time with you. The way he acts makes it sound like nothing is wrong to him, and if he doesn't think anything is wrong then you probably don't have anything to worry about. You probably do feel lonely, but the only thing you can do now is try and support him because he is probably going through a bunch of stress. If he has to worry about you, he'll feel even more stressed. If anything was wrong, he would tell you. So you may just have to wait it out and when he gets everything he's dealing with sorted out, you'll have more time together.

Answer 2

I think that you should try to hold on a little while longer. Because you two are madly in love with each other, I think this may be a test in your relationship to see how much patience and how much seperation you can deal with. Sometimes these things happen and there is not much you can do about it especially when it's someone you would hate to loose. However if you feel you can't hold on and neglection is taking over, maybe you two should seperate and sort some things out alone to see exactly where you want to be. Maybe the time alone to figure out your next move is best. Understand that there is a possibility you may get back together and things will be different or could be the same as well as you may loose him and move on or be wondering "what if I would have waited a while longer, what would have happened". Don't spend your time wondering "what if". When you make a decision, make sure it is the right decision and not one based on temporary feelings. Good Luck and I hope everything works out for the best.

Answer 3

I understand he has a new job but the fact that he doesn't spend time with you when he's not working is bad. He's not making you a priority and that means he's not doing everything he could be doing in order to make this work. He says this is just a temporary situation but why? Does he plan on leaving his job or something? Has he given you a time frame as to when this will end? If not then try telling him you want to take a break until he can find time in his busy schedule for you. Hopefully it will make him wake up and realize that he's losing you. If not then your relationship was probably already over and it's best that you move on.

Answer 4

If he is starting a career, he's going to need to put in a lot of time. It isn't fair to him for you to ask him to give up on his dream for you. Obviously, this job is important to him, and you're being selfish. All you can think about is yourself.

That's why I tell people to net get into serious relationships before you are out of college and already working in your career. He needs to do what he is doing, for HIS future, and you can't stand in the way of that. If you try, he will resent you forever. He has to make the most of his own life before he can truly share it with anyone.

Answer 5

Get your own life and move on, dont waste one second trying to figure someone's actions. Leave a message saying hey...miss you, call me when you can. Leave it at that and move on. If he wants to be with you... he will. If its temporary he'll tell you that. If he doesnt, means he doesnt want to be bothered and doesnt know how to say it.

Either way, your life is your own... and not worth wasting waiting for anyone.

Pick up a hobby, got to the gym , start your own business, finish school...go pursue a dream, but at any rate...dont keep calling...leave him alone.

Answer 6

It sounds like your boyfriend is seeing someone else and doesn't want to hurt you by breaking up. He's probably waiting for you to make the first move. Do yourself a favor and let him go. You'll be a happier person.

Answer 7

Sorry to say if you are that lonely and that you told him how you feel, I think it is time for you to move on. I wouldn't wait around for long and tell him that. find someone that will give you the attention that you need. good luck.

Answer 8

He does have other priorities now. but maybe you need to tell him how this makes you feel, dont tell everyone else. he needs to know how you really feel. tell him that you are hurting and that you need him. maybe plan a weekend for just the two of you

Answer 9

SEE YOU ARE SPOILED LIKE ME MY HUSBAND WE SPENT EVERY SEC TOGETHER AND THIS NEW JOB CAME ABOUT AND HE TOOK IT AND AND NOW OUR SHIFT IS DIFFERENT I WORK 5AM -5PM AND 3-12 OR 4AM TO 12 SO I ALMOST WENT CRAZY BUT IT WAS FOR A SHORT TIME FIND SOMETHING YOU LIKE TO DO TO PAST THE TIME AND IT WILL ALL WORK ITSELF OUT

Answer 10

im going through the same thing with my bf we decided to take a break and now were slowly working things out

dont worry, calm down, everything will be ok :)