I've been with the same man for 3 years and every 6 months or so I obtain evidence that he is talking to, having sex with, or emotional relationships with other women. He denies it, blames me for being nosey and gives me the cold shoulder. I love this man and if it wasnt for being absolutly terrified of being alone I would leave.
2007-03-16 04:02:41 · 21 answers · asked by Kim O 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Real men & women dont cheat. You need to get over your fear of being alone and lose this guy if he keeps disrespecting you. You need to be alone for about a year and then look for someone to appreciate your wit, looks and sexual abilities.
2007-03-16 04:06:57 · answer #1 · answered by Devdude 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you know that you are with him for the wrong reason. I mean you love him and that's a good reason, but if you're with him b/c you're afraid to be alone then that's not good. If you ever do leave him it's going to be really hard on you because you've been together so long. He's probably bored with the relationship and that's why he strays away every once in a while. If you think about your future, do you see him as marriage material? I doubt you'd want to marry someone who cheats every once in a while. By staying with him, you're keeping yourself from meeting someone who will treat you a lot better than that.
2007-03-16 11:19:59 · answer #2 · answered by angelicasongs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl!!!!! you need to leave that guy before he leaves you and then come back when he's done with the other girl. He's up to no good and he means you no good and when you allow that type of behavior he will always do just what he's doing now. You can love yourself and don't be afriad of being alone be afraid of staying with a guy who always want someone else and make you feel that it's your fault that he's straying. God has someone better 4 u.
2007-03-16 11:11:14 · answer #3 · answered by sweet p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is blind but damn, how much are you going to take. I didn't see you say that he abuses you physically but mentally I think that he has such a hold on you that you are screwed if you haven't left him yet. Take the advice of others and dump him then you won't have to worry about him straying, then get some professional help to figure out why you would let someone run you through the ringer like this guy. Unless you are using him for money or his dick is the golden rod of pleasure you make no sense.
2007-03-16 11:15:23 · answer #4 · answered by mooky_l3d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's why your man strays. He knows he can. I'm sorry that this is happening to you, but you have some say in all this. What's worse - being alone and not feeling betrayed by this man or staying with him and constantly feeling hurt? You don't love him. You love being "safe" in a relationship. Give yourself some credit and get out.
2007-03-16 11:09:42 · answer #5 · answered by A B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this man is probably straying because in your own way you are telling him it's okay. You say that every 6 months you find evidence, talk to hm about it and then he gets angry at you/denies it/whatever and you still stay with him! You are allowing yourself to be treated this way. Being alone sucks but being with someone who treats you like crap is worse. There are men out there who will love you and ONLY you and you won't have to share them with anyone else. You won't find them by staying with the loser you have now.
2007-03-16 11:07:30 · answer #6 · answered by Vivita 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am a man heres the deal your boring and predictable to him you have to pull the freak out in you.don't be scared to try new things.trust me I am going through the same thing with my lady.You have to get his attention back.here is what you do stop looking like a bum around him,start putting on clothes as if your going somewere a little make up perfume he will notice trust me.stay gone for 3 hrs don't answer your cell.then when you come home go to bed.do this once a week you will get his attenion back oh yeah one more thing your gonna have to turn into a tiger in bed take control we luv that. good luck.
2007-03-16 11:18:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men stray because they get bored in the bedroom. I'm surprised you are staying even though you know he cheated. You have no fear of being alone - especially because of how cute your avatar is. There are so many people on the planet, it makes no sense to stay with one that cheats on you. Just be careful, the longer you stay with him, the more time you are wasting, and the more guys you are missing out on. The last thing you want is to wind up stuck with this guy.
2007-03-16 11:07:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
We stray because we're not looking for a steady relationship with just one woman. It is in our nature to hunt and capture. It apparently in a woman's nature to nurture. We are just wired differently and do not have this need or fear of being alone. We function better when we're single and unencumbered. It's not meant to hurt women, it's just the way it is. What about this can't women understand?
2007-03-16 11:09:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you stay with a man who constantly cheats on you? And why are you so afraid of being alone? There are other guys out there, men who will cherish you and treat you with respect. Why stay with a bum like this? Wake up.
2007-03-16 11:08:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋