we have been going out for a month, and we kiss all the time, but we never actually make out. there were a couple times when we kiss with our mouths open, but everthing else is just pecks on the lips. i know she is not prude because she has had a lot of boyfreinds before me. i just don't get why she doesn't go for it on me. i try on her, but i don't want to force her into anything. i just don't know if i should talk to her about it, or if i should just go for it. how do you think i should handle this?????
2007-03-16 04:00:35 · 17 answers · asked by rubickmaster 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
regardless of how many boyfriends she has had in the past, she may be the kind of female who prefers to be "conquered" so to speak,....so go for it.......there is no such thing as forcing to try to make out? if she rejects you, back off. good luck.
2007-03-16 04:05:47 · answer #1 · answered by The French Connection 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not to trip on making it so important. "Pecking" is cool. At least she isn't breaking up. Take the time to analyze all those "little" things that might be affecting the experience. "What did I eat (1 hour ago? ) Did I slam a breath mint first? Was it to strong? Did I have stubble? etc. Think about your "technique" . Do you try to get your whole tongue in her mouth in one shot? Is the "dart" shape tongue slowing licking her lips and then working gently to her teeth and gums then pulling back with your moist lips caressing and teasing, does that sound good?. Really think about the different ways you can kiss without the full on tongue thing. Nuzzle her neck and take a deep breath and tell her how sweet she smells. Maybe it's like some of these lady answerer's are right. Maybe she hasn't "made out" with those other boyfriends and they got a little to "aggressive" and that's why they are in "X" isle. If you are listening to gossip about her on this subject you shouldn't. Give her and yourself a chance to enjoy each others companionship and in the future you will each be ready for a more meaningful relationship.
2007-03-16 14:51:52 · answer #2 · answered by make room for daddy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think i know why she might not. For me, i don't like the way the tongue feels, and it kind of weird and strange what it do with your own. It could be she's not comfortable with it. You can maybe try to figure ways to easy her about the whole strange tongue behavior thing. and maybe the reason why she likes to peck most is because she does want to go futher. It might be scarier futher. She might still be taking little steps only. I kiss with my mouth open to, but i don't like to do that all the time that way. Sometimes you just don't feel like it. Unless your in that moment where you don't feel like holding back and you just let it go. You just need to show her that there's nothing to be afriad of and how great it would be to kiss you, and that everything is ok, you too are in control, no one else is in the kiss. If you want to ask her, ask her after she refuses to do so. Ask when you guy are going about in the activity. calmly!!! Other than that she might just go slower than you in the relationship.
Or it could be the other thing, like my partner when we started, i did like the taste of his mouth and his scent around his mouth, but i maybe got over that. It could also be that?
2007-03-16 11:21:57 · answer #3 · answered by Go girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because she's had other boyfriends doesn't make her a tramp. Maybe she's not ready to go to that step just yet, because it may lead to other things that she's really not ready for. I would say, ask her, that's the only way your going to find out. Tell her here's the deal......I really want some serious make out action, but I don't want to be forcing anything on you, or do anything that will make you uncomfortable. Then get her reaction. It may be something as simple as she's been waiting for you to make the move. If it's a relationship worth pursuing, you definitely need to communicate. Good Luck!
2007-03-16 11:11:17 · answer #4 · answered by Green eyed girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok..... 1) maybe your trying in public *no-no*
2) She might be paronoid
3) Shes still insecure about you *hey 1 month?*
You should talk to her or wait some more you never know. Besides if you just started a month ago maybe shes just getting used to you.
2007-03-16 11:06:46 · answer #5 · answered by odi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her about it. Maybe she thinks that its too fast or something. Be honest because u dont want ur relationship built up of dishonesty. Take her to places thar are romantic. Buy her gifts and stuff. Girls like that.
good luck i hope it works out with u two,
2007-03-16 11:12:47 · answer #6 · answered by funky_girl77 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think you should force it on her, she just doesn't like making out, its a personal choice she has made. Its o.k. to peck and be lip locked, she likes that better, just go with that.
2007-03-16 11:03:54 · answer #7 · answered by Deformation Age 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is just not comfortable right now. I mean, it has been a month and I think that's too soon. Try to talk to her about that and see if it can be resolved. =] Good luck!
2007-03-16 11:06:18 · answer #8 · answered by Bleed!ng Star 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she's not ready. Just because she had lots of bf's doesn't mean that she made out with them. There are a lot of girls who had lots of bf's but hasn't even had their first kiss yet!
2007-03-16 11:05:03 · answer #9 · answered by vexen431 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her about it. Talking about it shows that you're willing to be open and honest - and it will also be more respectful to her to ask about her feelings rather than "just going for it" and turning her off even more.
2007-03-16 11:04:10 · answer #10 · answered by Eastern US Guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋