Okay, me and my ex girlfriend broke up a many months ago I asked her out again a little while later after the break up and she rejected me and we started talking again months later having fun with each other that it's ending up just like before we started going out. Now I have some feelings for her but I feel like I'm getting lead on. Another problem is that her mother is a religious lunatic. I have a strong faith in Christ but she's just way out there that it she seems more like a cult follower than a Christian. Her mother tried to "Convert" me or whatever and that went horribly for her and about 2 weeks later we broke up. I have no problem with what denomination of Christianity she is, cuz I love her for who she is not for "what" she is. But I don't get the same in return. Her mother's convinced her that "I'm not one of them". She shows interest when she's around me but ignores me when her family is around, even when she invites me over to be with her family. What's the deal??
2007-03-16 03:44:27 · 9 answers · asked by Jose L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is the deal, her mother and family have a strong influence on her to the point that she denies her interest in you whenever they are around. This in itself should tell you that she is still immature and has not learn ed to calculate her own way of believing and thinking and may never want to. Dating is a time to get to know one another and to then determine if the relationship you have with that person would be beneficial to your own happiness and you should be to theirs. It is obvious that you will not find total happiness with this girl. Best to move on and find a girl who will best suit you. As this issue of religion with her family will surely cause you grief and heartbreak in the long run. Best of luck to you.
2007-03-16 03:58:00 · answer #1 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-18 12:50:54 · answer #2 · answered by fugere 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's probably getting a lot of pressure from her family not to be with you and that puts her in a tough place. You need to ask her if she thinks she can be with you even though you do not belong to the same religion as her. It sounds as though you are both still young so you will have some problems as long as she lives with her mom (I'm assuming she does) and she will have to follow her mom's rules, etc. If this is something you can't deal with then it's probably best you move on now.
2007-03-16 03:50:28 · answer #3 · answered by Vivita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now I understand why you thought it was a 'complicated' situation...you're in too deep to see the forest for the trees! The girl has been indoctrinated for her whole life, so breaking her away from her 'cultist' mother without her being totally sick of the control ain't gonna happen. You aren't going to be bullied into becoming one of them, so the best thing for you to do is back away slowly and run like hell. There are more fish in the sea and some aren't quite as toxic as this particular school is, at the moment...
2007-03-16 03:57:11 · answer #4 · answered by wetdreamdiver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like her mother is a drama-queen. First off, I'm aetheist so I'll completely avoid the religious issues and stick to psychology. Religion is a touchy topic...
Anyway, you need to try to reinforce a sense of personal opinion within your ex. She needs to stop listening to her mother and learn to make opinions on her own. Once she is willing to unattach from her mother's hip, you will have a chance of actually building a real relationship with her.
One way of helping this along would be to get in good favor with her father (assuming he is still around). Having her father's permission will help to bypass her mother's overbearingness.
2007-03-16 03:55:27 · answer #5 · answered by Ritz Grimarren 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
here is something i know about your girl has some growing up to do.Her mother is lonely she wants the attenion from her daughter and it doesn't matter if its you or someone else its not the religon .Anything you say about her mother just makes it worse.If you love her thats fine but you have to love yourself first give her air go do your own thing don't be so quick to kiss her azz.If you have fun with her thats fine then go on a date every oncein a while but don't bring up that love stuff until she starts to break away from her mother.She will come around when she see you aren't catering to her anymore an you have every right to do so.Be a man she has to respect that.
2007-03-16 04:05:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is not going to change. Incompatibility in religion, financial status, or wanting/not wanting children are the 3 biggest reasons relationships fail. It's good that you have an open mind to Religion. However, this girls does not, and it is not likely to change. Ever. Give her up...she's broken your heart before, and she's a tease. There is nothing for you here. Find a girl who truly wants to be with you. Give it some time...it will happen.
2007-03-16 03:49:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like this girl is just playing games, and she's just not even sure what she really wants. My advice is to start talking to someone else, but you can keep her on the back burner and see if she comes around.As for her mom just try not to think about her she seriously needs to get out of your business and let her daughter live her life.
2007-03-16 03:50:42 · answer #8 · answered by iluvsuperman84 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't think it's gonna get any better. Either deal with it or try to move on.
2007-03-16 03:49:16 · answer #9 · answered by nosycap9 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋