ok i do no what sex IS and how dangerous, and im not gonna get pregnant, he WILL use a condom and i am on birth control, nothing i havent woriied about before..and every time i see him he ask when when when..i have been with him since 5th grade and im ready but i just dont no much about it just how dangerous it is..i dont no haw to do "it"
2007-03-16 03:40:49 · 27 answers · asked by Katie H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I just turned 16 and the day after my birthday, I did it with my girlfriend. The first time is sort of awkward and it sort of hurt for her. It's been two days and right now I'm still a little confused so I probably should have waited to have sex later.
My best advice to you is probably just wait to have sex unless you really "love" him. To me, you don't sound ready because you are still confused and you aren't truly sure that you are ready. You only "think" that you are ready from the pressure that your boyfriend gave you.
First time for a girl isn't the funnest, for you will feel pain.
Ask yourself these questions before you have sex with him?
1. Do you believe that he is your perfect match (true love)
2. Are you emotionally and physically able to endure the consequences? If your parents find out (since your 16), your going to regret it and they are going to hate your boyfriend.
3. Are you willing to maybe screw up the rest of your life?
There is always a chance for a pregnancy. Condoms, birth control, morning after pill, and etc do not have 100% protection. If you have a baby, say bye-bye to your boyfriend because he will leave you, and say hello to high-school dropout and living in poverty for the rest of your life. NOT KIDDING. ITS 100% TRUE. Your social status among the girls will be down the drain. Be prepared to be called H*os or sl*u*t*s.
4. Are you willing to contract an STD or AIDS?
Yep pretty sure you don't want those disease. You would have to pay tons of money to get treatment and be in debt. Also, your life will be cut shorter because you will die from the disease or have to endure lots of pain.
2007-03-16 10:37:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are on the pill you are protected 99% and with a condom 98%. The chances of you getting pregnant are obviously very small but there is always a risk, that is why the pill and the condom are not 100% guaranteed. For the best answers go to http://www.plannedparenthood.org/.
2007-03-16 03:48:46 · answer #2 · answered by Alien.Zombie13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just like everyone answered before, you are too young. Maybe you do know about the risks and you are going to be careful, but that doesn't mean that you are ready. Time isn't everything. You are 16. Most people I have met who are much older and lost their virginity wished they would have waited longer. You have to ask yourself: are you willing to have this guy's kid? Would you marry him? Because sex is an emotional and physical commitment that is very similar to marriage, you don't want to get hurt. Think about yourself instead of his pressuring and do what is best for you.
2007-03-16 03:47:20 · answer #3 · answered by Janice P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so you know what it is but you don't know how to do it, well i guess you will have to learn and if he is gonna be your first experience no one should be pressuring you to have sex, so what you been with him since the 5tth grade or you knew of him since the 5th grade, No one really knew how to have sex they had to learn over the years of experince that they encountered, so honey there is nothing no one can really tell you but to lie their and let him do all the work and because i am assuming that you are young it's gonna hurt and you will bleed afterwards cause he's gonna break you hyman and from then on you will have to go and get pap smears. So have fun and enjoy your first time
2007-03-16 03:53:28 · answer #4 · answered by Soulchild21 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for my first time i just layed there, and he did all the work...if hes asking as much as u say he should kow what to do not to complicated...it all falls into place after your laying there kissing...
and for the dangerous part the only thing besides STDs that u need to worry about is if your to young, then your body hve not matured...which means he could be stretching something that could hurt u when u do want kids...but your obviously matre about the situation with birth control, and u know for him to wear a condom
HOPE IVE HELPED, EVEN IF IT WAS JUST A little.
2007-03-16 03:51:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry to say this but youre not ready, if u were then u wudnt be asking these questions, its ur first time and ud want it to be special dont do anything that ud regret later on. Wait a while, get proper information on it, make sure that u understand what it is all about, if ur boyfriend really loves u then he'll understand and he'll wait on u.
2007-03-16 03:50:06 · answer #6 · answered by Crazilicous 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No birth control is 100% ask anybody, read the packages, condoms break, hormones change, Aids is no respector of persons. Once you start having sex, that is ALL HE WILL WANT. I know, I am a guy,,, how old are you ?
2007-03-16 03:47:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kate,
I understand the pressure you are feeling and especially all the unknowns. I want to assure you that you are worth waiting for. Sex is somthing that is very beautiful and very special that should be shared between two people who are completely commited to one another and who are mature enough to handle the consequences. Our culture puts alot of pressure on young girls to be provocitive and sexy and even more pressure on young guys to chaise these young girls. What this usuly leads to is two people who are physically able to perform the act but who really are not mature enough to deal with the consequesces of their actions. Condoms can and do break or come off, birth control is not 100%, and STD's are very very common and some are uncureable and even fatal. Idealy sex is somthing to be shared between a husband and his wife who love each other and have commited their lives to one another. In its very designe sex bonds the couple together on many different levels physically, emotionaly, and even spirtualy. When you have sex with someone you give a piece of yourself away to that person and for the rest of your life you will have somthing very intimate in common with them. I have been on both sides of this and I am convinced that sex is worth waiting for and that you are worth waiting for. True love waits and if someone truly loves you they will be willing to put your needs before theirs, true love is self sacrificial and selfless not selfish.
2007-03-16 03:58:35 · answer #8 · answered by Travis S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"it" is not dangerous in that doing "it" will threaten your life -- you are using protection ---- it is an enjoyable activity between two people that care for each other --- if you have any reservations then they will affect how much you enjoy and may even make it unpleasant ---- make sure you have plenty of time and are somewhere safe and comfortable ---- also the first time will be disappointing --- over quickly and unsatisfying you will need to practice more
2007-03-16 03:48:41 · answer #9 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi dear
u must n t be scare of dangerous like be sexual ill or any bad
but it s about love and heart
he just want to have sex and ask about it always as u told
but is he ask about heart,love,romantic life,your future with him,did he do?
in my religion sex is wrong without marriage
may u ll laughing at me
but when u read about why it s not allow without marriage may u ll understand me
our religion consider and appreciate love and love which make us have a good nice long life and long relation ship with nice sexual life
wish i could help u
2007-03-16 03:52:57 · answer #10 · answered by bravehazem 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋