Anyone know what i can do or say to make them come? They don't approve cause hes older than I and was previously married with two kids. we now have a 2.5 year old adopted son and it took them 1.5 years before they even wanted to see my son.. I find them to be two faced and rude to me no matter what i do. Im adopted by them but yet they didn' t approve of me adopting. They have seen and met my fiance like once only cause we ran into them. I just don't understand them at all! I want them to come to my wedding but im pretty sure the answer is no. Any suggestions on what i can do or say to get them to come or any advice. I mean every girl wants their parents at their wedding to give them away... It won't feel right without them and i will be very upset!
2007-03-16 03:40:16 · 15 answers · asked by snookumz24 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Just a note too that i have asked them before and told them many years ago someday we would get married and they said they aren't going to come cause that if they come that would mean they approve of my life and they don't
2007-03-16 04:02:05 · update #1
What you said -- about being two faced and rude -- I mean, they're your parents, but this seems to be true. If they can't stand to see you be happy, that's terrible. Just because you were previously married doesn't mean you can't be happy with someone else. The best advice I can give you: Try to talk to them about it. Go to their house or take them to dinner and tell them how happy he makes you and how much your kids enjoy being around him. Tell them that you need their approval because you're their little girl and you need them to be there for you.
I hope it all works out!!
2007-03-16 03:49:24 · answer #1 · answered by Sarah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to them, find out what their reservations are, then counter every point logically. If you cannot then do not.
Also if they say you are making a mistake, tell them it's yours to make, and they as your parents should support your decision even if they think it's a bad one. They should be there for you, not trying to live your life for you.
Sounds like they may be overprotective because you're their adopted child, so they feel an especially prevalent need to take care of you, but this is just a guess.
Talk to them and find out the reasons why, then give your points. Make sure to tell them it's not the same if they're not there to give you away.
2007-03-16 04:03:19 · answer #2 · answered by Luis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a shame. They dont approve of your life, yet seem to have to problem with being hurtful and cruel. Maybe its a good theing that they don't approve of your life. Of course, we don't know everything going on, and maybe they're justified, but who can say? All I know is that there are certain times in a person's life when you have to be there to support them no matter whether you like it or not, and a daughter's wedding is one of those times.
2007-03-16 04:18:05 · answer #3 · answered by melouofs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 05:33:22 · answer #4 · answered by megna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the only thing you can do is sit down with them and discuss how you feel. Be ready to let them tell you how they feel.
If in the end you believe your getting married is right for you - then you need to do what is right for you.
If you decide to continue with the wedding, be sure that they know that not only are they welcome, but you would like them to have a part in it.
If they choose not to come - you will just have to let that go.
2007-03-16 03:50:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If they don't respect your wishes my dear move on with your wedding, send them an invitation, you have to live your live. If they are your adopted parents the should treat you with love and care. there is nothing wrong with you adopting a child just go for it. love the child your own always, treat him good
training him to have respect 4 you and your husband. God will bless you for doing so. just pray and ask Jesus to help you.
2007-03-16 04:32:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my future in-laws told my fiance that they won't go to our wedding because "it's a practice marriage" and they'll go to his next wedding because that's the one that will matter so i feel ya a bit on the parents not coming! we just accepted it and are taking the approach that our wedding is about us and we don't want people who don't support us there anyways! i know it's incredibly hard but just try to think about your day being about you and the love of your life!
2007-03-16 04:37:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
send them an invite!!! If they don't come it is their loss honestly. I am will definately pray for you however. This has got to be heart breaking for you. Have a good day with the man you love and your new family. That is what matters most. They are the ones missing out.
2007-03-16 09:17:23 · answer #8 · answered by Ladybugs77 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to talk with them... Is an important step in your life. I'm sure they will go to the wedding... Think in some trick to get them in.
I'ts a shame don't have them with you.
2007-03-16 04:03:46 · answer #9 · answered by Brenda M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch. First, sit down with them and reason with them why you chose your boyfriend. Second, try asking them whether they would want to come for the wedding. After all, you haven't even asked yet.
2007-03-16 03:49:31 · answer #10 · answered by C. Lex 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋