My step-daughter lives out of state and will be having her shower soon. Due to family issues her father and I will not be attending the wedding. I wanted to send her something for her bridal shower to show her that we care and that we are thinking about her. However, I don't know how this would be regarded or what to send her.
2007-03-16 03:38:08 · 27 answers · asked by wolverinesfan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I would definitely send her a gift. I have no idea what she is like, so it would be very difficult to say what you should send. However, it should be special and something that shows you are thinking of her. This is a very important time in her life, and you need to make sure that she knows that you care and are thinking about her.
2007-03-16 04:07:06 · answer #1 · answered by A dad & a teacher 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter if there is issues between you and them or who ever - a shower is special and should be a day to spoil the bride.
Send her a gift - send her two gifts - who cares, as long as you send a nice gift that comes from the heart.
A card with heart felt words will also work nicely together with the gift.
Tell her how much you really wish you could be there and sorry for missing her shower. Apologies if there is something you have to apologies about.
Life is too short.
My best friend just berried her father yesterday - don't end up regretting not having said things you wanted to say or not spending time with people over petty things.
2007-03-16 03:48:47 · answer #2 · answered by Juanita L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say yes, definitely you should send a gift. I don't know what family issues are going on but she needs to know you care for her, and about whats going on in her life. If your unsure of what to send, gift cards are always great, then she can choose something she hasn't received or something she needs. As a new wife, she may need kitchen type items so maybe a gift card from the Food Network store will be appreciated. You guys know her so just try to give something she'll use, and nothing to offend. I think it's thoughtful, but I would say try not to go cheap, because that's probably the only complaint she could have about being sent a gift. Also I would attach an endearing note telling her how happy you are for her, and how much she deserves to have all her dreams come true. Good Luck!
2007-03-16 03:53:42 · answer #3 · answered by Green eyed girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you get a shower invitation? If so, then give her hostess a call and see if you can send the gift to her house and she bring it to the shower with her, so as not to spoil any surpirses. A bunch of out of state people sent their gifts to the shower I hosted and I had no problem bringing them for the people who couldnt attend.
Also, I would ask if she is registered anywhere and shop off of that. I would stick to something that doesnt make a statement about the reason you arent attending, like a poem or anything sentimental. No need to bring anything but good feelings to her shower. Just send a nice card along with the gift saying that you are sorry you couldnt be there to celebrate with her. Dont air your personal business to everyone.
Good luck!
2007-03-16 03:48:55 · answer #4 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes send her a gift. I am going to step out of place here however. Your husband is her daddy!!! He needs to do whatever it takes to be at his little girls wedding no matter what. I can understand if it is health related but I get the feeling maybe it is something more like issues concerning getting along. He really needs to try. I think he will regret it later on. Unless however his daughter flat out just doesnt want him here. I don't mean to seem rude I am just sorry for you all if you are missing this because of some disagreement.
2007-03-16 09:23:13 · answer #5 · answered by Ladybugs77 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Stepmother of the Bride,
I think this is very nice to do. It is too bad you cannot attend the shower, but sending a gift is really nice-put a nice card with it as well, maybe offering advise on marriage and how much hard work it is, but stick with it!
My sister threw me a nice shower last November, and my stepmom bought me a lovely nightgown/robe set that I will wear for the night of my wedding. It is a pretty pink color, and so nice. In fact, my fiance thought I would wear it sooner than the wedding night and seemed kinda disappointed when I wouldn't! I guess he is tired of my old t-shirts:)
Anyway, best wishes to your stepdaughter!
2007-03-16 04:09:36 · answer #6 · answered by Learning is fun! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead and send it. It is a nice thing to do. Just be prepared for possible consequences as your family issues will still be there. Sending the gift might be regarded as an peace offering and an overture to possibly resolving those issues.
As for what to get her, do you know if she is registered anywhere? If so, just buy something off of her registry list. If not, a crystal bowl or vase or some candlesticks is always nice.
2007-03-16 03:44:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it would be a wonderful gesture to let her know that even though you are not there you want to be. if possible, find out if she is registered at any particular stores and go from there on gift ideas. some stores (like Bed Bath & Beyond) will gift wrap and ship your package fro you if you order online or something like that. Or it would be really nice for you and your hubby to both write individual letters to the bride and maybe consider giving her some extra cash to go towards whatever she needs for the wedding or honeymoon. i think it will mean alot and i think it is important for a girl to know that her daddy is always there and loves her very much no matter what the cirrumstances are.
2007-03-16 05:41:03 · answer #8 · answered by angelcdm228 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I would not send a shower gift but would wait until after the couple were married and send something wonderful for their home. The point is to let her know that you are supportive of her decision to marry not to make waves in this transitional time of her life.
2007-03-16 03:42:37 · answer #9 · answered by QueenBean 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there is a rift on your relationship and you were not invited or welcome, yes, you can send a gift, Make it a monetary gift.
Cash is always appropiate and welcome. You will show them that you care and the present will no be a reminder of your issues in their home.
If your relationship is good, then send a gift. Two of them,. One for the shower and one for the wedding. I would stick to the cash thoughm because you don;t have to wrap it, pay shipping charges and she won;t be complaining that she already got that present.
Good luck
2007-03-16 04:02:21 · answer #10 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋