How often is acceptable to go down the pub with your mates when you are in a serious relationship?

Question

And when would be the borderline a woman would start getting annoyed?

In terms of nights per week.

Answer 1

Talk to her and ask? i would get annoyed if he started going to the pub more than he saw me...maybe twice a week is okay...negotiate something go on a night she's busy anyway!!!

Answer 2

Your circumstances might be quite different from other guys, so is your partner different to their's. So no fixed rule as such. Any sensible woman knows that a relationship or even marriage doesn't mean locking up the man to be with her excluding all other friends. It depends on how understanding your lady is, how much you care for her not to let her feel alone or abandoned. The ideal number of your outings with the guys is that you both feel okay about it. When yo come home from the pub, do tell her whom you have been with, the interesting bits of conversation, jokes, your mate's regard to her, etc. help to make her feel she is sort of included even in her absence. She might issue you the pink ticket more often & readily! She needs some time on her own too.

Answer 3

I think it varies for every woman! I've been with my boyfriend nearly 7 years. The first few years we were together we would both be going out at least once a week sometimes 3 or 4 times! But we were a lot younger (16 when we met) so wanted to be going out doing our own thing etc. We moved in together over a year ago and now I would say its acceptable for him to go out drinking no more that 3 times a month! Only because of the financial side of things. I'd be annoyed if he went out anymore than that because he can't afford it. He's probably out every weekend but he does drive sometimes to save money.

Answer 4

Well that depends on the two of you really. Personally I am not a great beliver in "living in each others pockets" you both have lifes outside of each other as well! the whole where are you what you doing who you with thing does not work. You need to talk with your partner and ask how she feels, you also need to respect that fact that she has a life as well, and may want to go off and do things. No relationship is the same, as no people are the same, the way to make things work is to talk and listen open and honestly!
Hope this helps

Answer 5

my x used to go the pub thrus-mon night,it annoyed me that much that i left him.
We were together for 5 years and i just walked out the door not giving him a second thought,where was he when i walked out,,you got it,,the pub.
He used to spend over £100 a week on booze,he only earned £170 a week and a child from his previous relationship,he never paid a bill but gave me £15 a week,,wow.
I would say once or twice a week would be ok,,any more than that i would say your taking the piss

Answer 6

I would say 1 or 2 nights per week. Plus don't get so drunk you have to be escorted home by the police at 3 am.

Answer 7

Personally speaking,my boyfriend goes out 2 nights-on the rare occasion 3, a week to the pub. It doesn't bother me at all-I'm glad he has friends and a social life-otherwise he'd be boring! We don't live together,but if we did,I'd think it would stay the same. And of course,I'd have my nights out with the girls-and of course,we'd have our nights together. It really depend son the couple,and their expectations.

Answer 8

When shes home & hes not . When the buddy time gets in the way of thier shared time. When he can't pay for his responsibilities BUT he has money 4 the pub!!!!!!!!!!! These are the borders a woman uses

Answer 9

depending on how often you see her Id consider two nights plenty... like not getting off your head drunk though!
If you see her two or three nights or even more a week - Id consider two a fair number.
If however you dont get to see her very often - then I would think you should try and sacrafice one of these pub nights to be with her.
It totally depends on your circumstances!
xx

Answer 10

When you are in a relationship, you still need chill out time to yourselves else it won't work. I would be happy for my bloke to go out a couple of nights a week with his mates, then I've got time to do whatever I want but theres still plenty of time to be together x