I dont want o hear "Oh he should want to do those things anyway"......But, Im wondering if theres anything I can do to make my man want to be romantic more often...he has, but probably about 10 times in 2 years!!! I want him to want to pamper me and rub me and slow dance with me and caress my skin!! How can I do that....he loves me and I could make him...but why doesnt he just want to and do it on his own without me makin him!!??? Any suggestions? Maybe act uninterested and play a lil game like when we first started dating?? I dunno...any ideas?
2007-03-16 03:28:44 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
girl,
some people are just romantics and some are not...i feel your pain...my honey is about as romantic as a wet cat. i used to nag him from time to time, wondering what was wrong with him...but it only worked temporarily...
but...
this has worked...show him what you want. do not. i repeat do not drop hints. the guys i know and have known don't do real well on picking up hints. just tell him..."honey, will you rub my back" or turn on the radio and grab his hand and slow dance...romance him...
just a warning...most guys don't see/think/ponder about love and romance the way females do...they're not wired like us...
i wish you the best!
2007-03-16 03:38:40 · answer #1 · answered by Marsha Mellow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You get men that have a really hard time being romantic - and wouldn't even know they aren't.
For some men coming home and staying out of your way till you bring him his dinner is an act of being romantic.
Sorry - Men just don't get it (Well not all men but most)
Have you tried to tell him that you want to be spoiled and pampered and treated a certain way - and by being spoiled you want him to doe this and this and this.
Maybe he is just unsure and once you tell him this is things you like - then he will feel more comfortable and do it more.
Maybe if he lacks in the romantic department - you must step in and make up for it - treat him, pamper him and if you do it enough and every time you do it, it leads to a good time - maybe it will rub off on him.
Good luck
2007-03-16 10:40:09 · answer #2 · answered by Juanita L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are certain types of people who enjoy certain types of behavior!!!! Some (a lot) of men although they seem like they are confident about their masculinity are not .This would make the whole being romantic and playful thing not their cup of tea. You need to understand that we are products of our environment(for the most part) and that if he didnt see these things growing up that they could be very foreign to him .Perhaps even seem pointless(god forbid)
Other man just think they are too cool to be sweet (their loss) and wont do it!!!!! If he has only done this for you 10 times in two years,perhaps its just not his kind of thing. I would just explain to him how its not that you want to have to ask him to do it but that you want him to "want" to do it. But dont expect that if he hasn't wanted to before that it will change.
2007-03-16 10:40:50 · answer #3 · answered by deeshamon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men arent wired that way. But if I were you I would initiate it for him. Cuddle up to him and tell him how much you like being by his side. Tease him get him all hot and botheres. True there are probably some men whom nothing would work. Crap it just take sthe wind blowing a certain direction and the right perfume on her and I get crazy.
2007-03-16 10:34:23 · answer #4 · answered by Devdude 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
show some sighs that you want 2 go out and have fun
2007-03-16 10:34:21 · answer #5 · answered by aj_p7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋