seen daughter after 19 yrs so happy seen her three times but she's in the high life and a fly away could be moving miles away
and feel she's just slipping away i feel heart broken
could any of you good people tell me some hope
or what to do
i much appreciate it
2007-03-16 03:27:16 · 12 answers · asked by DEAN R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I didn't have contact with my dad for about 6 years, though we didn't live far apart. My parents divorced when i was young, they both got remarried, moved to separate counties etc etc.
I used to see him every other weekend until i was about sixteen. Then i started to go out at weekends and seeing him slowly fizzled out until it had been nearly 6 years since i last see him. I then realised i needed to be in contact with him again he was my dad after all, though however much i see him there was always something missing.
He doesn't feel like my dad, just a person i know really well. I'm hoping this will change over time, its been 5 years now that i been back in contact with him and i do feel closer everytime i see him. That 'dad' is slowly coming back
I think in your case after such a long time its hard for your daughter to suddenly feel like you have been there for ever. I don't think you could ever be as close as you were when she was young, but i hope you prove me wrong!
Good Luck
2007-03-16 03:41:04 · answer #1 · answered by rose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh Dean - I feel for you.
It will be very hard for you, but it won't be easy for
her either. Your her Dad and she will not forget you.
What you must do is both keep in touch, and don't just
say it DO it. You could make a pact that you will
phone each other. Probably once in the week and
once weekend.
Talk to one another over the net. This is a wonderful
tool for communication. Let her know how you feel.
Good Luck.
2007-03-16 03:33:58 · answer #2 · answered by Minxy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you didnt say how old your daughter is so im assuming shes in her 20's,your daughter has a life to live and no matter where you both are on this planet you will always have a connection.
Your have the internet,phones and letters.
Dont lose contact just because shes moving,nowadays theres is no reason not to keep intouch,everyone anywhere is now accessable.
Be happy your daughter has her head on her shoulders and encourage her to do well in her life,she will love you even more for it
2007-03-16 03:33:48 · answer #3 · answered by freerange00720002000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My ex had practically no contact with our daughter till she was in her 20's. That really screwed her up so badly! Then, suddenly she met him accidentally. She was so happy to see him! He even went to visit her. Her kids starting calling him "Grand-dad." Then he suddenly disappeared again... & broke her heart again...
Her attitude now is: "It's his loss."
She phones him, leaves messages, sends Christmas cards- he doesn't respond.
So my advice to you is DON'T allow your relationship to lapse. Keep sending her little gifts in the post, keep leaving messages on her phone, keep emailing, writing letters- whatever... just to impress upon her the fact that you DO love her...
even if she doesn't come running to you now, she will always know that you did that, that you CARE, that you ARE kind, & most important, that YOU are her DAD... (that might be hard for her to understand... what is a dad? she probably doesn't know a dad is someone you can run to when trouble rears, a dad is there to make sure you're alright, keep you safe...)
You're obviously in need of a bit tender loving care yourself, so don't be afraid to let her know that. High-fliers can often be selfish, flighty sorts... nose stuck up in the air, uncaring? Perhaps your HUMAN request for a bit of compassion will make her think twice & realise she might be pursuing something that might not be as fufilling as she thinks, yeh?
God bless you for caring!
2007-03-16 06:50:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my mum left me and my sister when we were 3 and 6 now I'm 37 in '93 i moved to live in the same country as her my children are very close she has a second family that is my family despite The fact we had no contact from my 16th to my 22nd yr my sister took longer to come round but now visits with her two children and my mother travels to her in England once a year we all get on fine there are memories but if you both don't hold grudges and as her mother don't try to smother her good things come to those who wait xx
2007-03-16 03:37:08 · answer #5 · answered by suzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the worl is a small place. you dont say why you didnt see your daughter for so long. but my advice to you is; you must make the effort to write, to phone, to keep the lines of communication open. it is up to you to keep things going, even if she knocks you back keep trying. eventually your daughter will learn to trust your love and respond. it dosent really matter how far away she is. people carry on relationships all the time with their loved ones, even when they are half the world away.
2007-03-18 21:53:13 · answer #6 · answered by fat momma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its a natural thing for your baby to leave the nest you have done your bit and raised a great girl and you will always be there for her but you need to make a new life for you one thats fulfilling so you dont have time to miss her much, get involved in community projects, sports, hobbies, anything you love to do, then when you do see her there will be lots of fun catching up to do, hope this helps
2007-03-16 03:34:58 · answer #7 · answered by tra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should have tried harder to be a Father to begin with
I can't imagine not knowing where my children are
You have no part to play in what she's acheived
It's lucky that she's done well for herself
Heart broken ??
I bet she was all the xmas's and birthdays that you weren't around
2007-03-16 03:37:17 · answer #8 · answered by Elle J Morgan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can call and keep in touch with her. Show interest in her and what she is doing. Tell her how you feel and always let her know you love her.
2007-03-16 03:32:42 · answer #9 · answered by Jan C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've both got some issues to deal with. When the time is right, you'll know.
2007-03-16 03:30:07 · answer #10 · answered by Ya-sai 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋