im 16 and my boyfriend keeps asking when we are gonna do it but i dont no how it all works and i dont wanna look like a retard when we do, do it what should i do?
2007-03-16 03:25:08 · 16 answers · asked by Katie H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well just don't do what i did get all drugged up and have random sex see if your bf seems like the right person and he knows how and u both think that u should do it ..................but if ur just not ready don't force it just let things take there time and u will know if it's the right thing to do (and if ur bf is that horny and u don't want to and he does just let him go no matter how hard or easy it is )unless he is ok with it
2007-03-16 08:40:47 · answer #1 · answered by ~~Ashleii Marii~~ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your boyfriend is asking , " when are you gonna do it" It sounds like you have less interest in doing it than he does. The question is not how it works and what are you going to look like but if you are ready to have sex? There is, contrary to what some people say, a difference between doing it and making love. You will have to trust me on this one. The first time you are with a man in that way you want to make love. You will know that you are ready when it is time. how will you know because you will want to share yourself in every way with that person. If you have sex before you are ready (16, not ready) you are going to experience a lot of pain. It seems to me that you need to talk one on one to either your parents or a trusted female adult. You can e mail me if you want to more information. Do they teach sex education at your school? Tell your boyfriend you will do it when you are ready. If he can't wait for you to get information or to be emotionally ready then he is not ready to be your first.
2007-03-16 10:39:52 · answer #2 · answered by newyorktilson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon you are 16 get a book from the library or ask your health teacher to help you with some reading material-where were you on sex education day? Talk with your parents. Make sure you find out about birth control cause you dont want a baby right now!
2007-03-16 10:32:41 · answer #3 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Katie, I know I am gonna sound like your Mom and I do not mean to, but Hun Never let a Guy talk you into anything you are not ready for, or feel uncomfortable doing. When the time is right you will know it. If this guy really cares about you, he will understand. If not then maybe hes not the one for you. There are wayyy to many teen pregnancys and people with STD (Sexually Transmitted Disease) walking around, Because their partners cheated on them or just got caught up in a bad situation. Give your boyfriend some hand Lotion and tell him to take matters into his OWN hands.
2007-03-16 10:33:56 · answer #4 · answered by donna_honeycutt47 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Never have sex with anyone because you feel pressured. Go to your local library and get several books on the topic, make sure you read about STD disease,contraception and safe sex. Always fall in love and get to know the person before you have sex with him. Do not rush yourself just because everyone is doing it. You be surprised not everyone is doing it and many of the big mouth are still virgins. Wait as long as you can and when you do it make sure you are very much in love.
2007-03-16 10:33:15 · answer #5 · answered by Abby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Katie,
You need to ask yourself more question than how to have sex or make love without looking like a retard. The biggest question you need to ask yourself, "Are you ready to start having sex?" Are you ready to deal with pregnancy? Even using birth control, it is possible to get pregnant. Condoms break or slip off. Pills are forgotten to be taken. Are you ready to have an abortion or raise a child? Is he ready to raise a child? Are you ready to deal with an STD? Are you ready to deal with he only wanted to be with you for sex? Wait until you are married. Both you and him, will be better prepared to answer these questions, and he will be worthy of your virtue because he is willing to make a commitment to you. Having sex or making love can have life altering consequences. It is time to re-think this decision.
2007-03-16 10:51:10 · answer #6 · answered by A friend of Bill W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First don't do it plan and simple, if it means losing him than he wasn't worth it. I know your probably thinking man these adults don't understand. Well your wrong I'm 22 and my had my son at 15, my parents never talked to me about sex at all. And long before I got pregnant I was pressured in to it. Not by my sons father and who's now my husband of seven years. But by a boyfriend who turned out to be slime. regret it to this day. It's not worth nor is it gonna many anything unless your older and really love and RESPECT each other. Please talk to your health teacher and your parents. You have a long life a head of you and plenty of time to live it.
2007-03-16 10:45:30 · answer #7 · answered by bubbas_bookworm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to rush right into having sex. You're 16. In the US you'd be a minor (I think). Tell your boyfriend to ease up, it's worth the wait. Just don't stress yourself, but if you feel like you must, go and buy a truckload of romance novels and start studying, lol.
And play safe....
2007-03-16 10:40:28 · answer #8 · answered by Skitch_™ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should remeber that you're only 16, and not let your BF pressure you!! Keep your panties up until you can talk to your doctor and get the details, not only on "how it all works" but you need info in birth control and STD's even more.
2007-03-16 10:30:37 · answer #9 · answered by georgiagrits1 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are too young to have sex. If you don't even know how to do it then you obviously know nothing about birth control and protecting yourself from STDs. Don't do it. You will only regret it.
2007-03-16 10:29:52 · answer #10 · answered by angie a 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋