should i invite cousins?

Question

My fiance and I are marrying this summer.
We want a small wedding coz we don't want to spend too much.

I was wondering, should I invite my cousins(first cousins) or not?
Although we were close when we were kids, I haven't seen them for 10 years because we are now in different towns.

And to the reception?

Answer 1

You need to look closely at numbers especially where finances are tight. As long as you explain to your cousins about the situation, I am sure that they will understand. Is it possible to have an evening do for cousins and friends who are not invited to the wedding or reception - this could be held on the same day or a different time. A buffet can be arranged for this and people buy their own drinks. Everybody can still be part of the wedding celebrations, but the cost will be reduced. The wedding day is your special time - avoid hassle and enjoy the start of your married life together. Decide what is best for you.

Answer 2

We've invited most of our cousins and most have said they cant come which is a relief as the guest list is a little out of hand.
If you dont feel particulary close to them then dont invite them as this is an extra cost to you.

We are having a small wedding due to costs and have found that just inviting people to the evening do has been easier as we are catering for the people that are coming to the wedding. We are having a buffet and have order a little extra because we know that some people invited to the evening only may be a little peckish and will prob finish off the buffet. This has worked best for us!

Wishing you the best of luck and congratulations!

Answer 3

If there cousin isn't married, then you definately ought to no longer experience too in contact about no longer inviting the boyfriend. i imagine you should ask the cousin if you're inviting the different cousins, in spite of the undeniable fact that that's thoroughly as a lot as you even if you invite little ones or no longer. i don't know even if you're inviting little ones of the different cousins, which if you're may be slightly complicated. Is length a controversy in any respect? even if that's that it is a sturdy excuse to apply. For my wedding ceremony I had no little ones on the reception, yet invited each body to the evening get at the same time. it is your wedding ceremony, you want it to be an afternoon you'd be satisfied to look back on. per chance you would possibly want to comprise a letter in with the invite explaining that you're sorry you've not invited the youngsters yet length received't enable/not in any respect met 2 of them, and unfair to in undemanding words invite those you've met. ensure the invite says her call on it, so that's clean that's an invitation for HER, and positioned RSVP including her call on it. you'll favor to understand numbers for seating i'd guess, so she will't basically carry someone uninvited.

Answer 4

Im getting married in Oct and not one cousin is being invited, there are 110 guests comin to my wedding, if i were to invite all my cousins and their partners and my fiances cousins and partners there would be a total of 215 guests coming to my wedding, doubling my price so it was an instant NO NO, you really shouldn't be inviting people for the sake of it, it just costs too much money, im not even inviting them to the evening reception it would cost me £805 to do that and my wedding is costing me enough without adding an extra grand onto it

Answer 5

Small weddings are usually just your immediate family and your best friends. You don't need to invite who you don't want too. If youre thinking of numbers for the reception then a buffet would be best and that would cater for your cousins too. Do what suits your budget and you both.

Answer 6

im getting married this year,we are having a smallish wedding 50 in the day.
I havent invited any of my cousins in the day,they can come of an evening if they choose too.
Its your wedding,its your choice,dont let anyone pressurise you into inviting people coz the more the merrier,think of the cost,we are paying for our own wedding so there is no way we would invite people coz the more the merrier.
If you dont see them just invite them in the night

Answer 7

Personally I would invite them, especially first cousins. However if the budget is tight and its a mega struggle then I would stick to just immediate family for the receptiona and then all others to the evening do. You have to stick to this on both sides of the family though as it would not be fair xGood luck x

Answer 8

I think you should. Although you aren't that close to them now, the wedding would make them feel included and they could take it the wrong way if you didn't invite them.

If money is a problem, you should just not invite them, but drop them a line and tell them that it's nothing personal.

Have a great day.

Answer 9

No, if you want to keep it small then do that. If you were still close you could invite the ones you are close to, but if you haven't seen each other for a long time there is no need. It's your day, do what makes you happy, not everyone else.

Answer 10

How many cousins do you have? For me, inviting cousins would NOT be keeping a wedding small as I have 18 on my father's side alone (and more on my mother's) plus guests for all but three.

Whatever you decide, make sure you keep it even on both sides. If you are inviting your cousins, you can't leave his out; if you're not inviting yours, you can't invite his.