I had a quite a traumatic first relationship and it ended about a mth ago. My ex was an angry person and would abuse me verbally and leave me crying each time. I'm so tired now that I can't seem to trust any guys around me and my heart seems so dead now.
How can I open up again and forget about him?
2007-03-16 03:24:12 · 4 answers · asked by Grace 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You must give yourself time to heal. What I would do is not date anyone seriously for at least a year. Get involved with other things, like hobbies, family, friends, exercising. You are too stressed out and your self esteem has been totally deflated and for you to start a serious relationship with someone else would not be healthy, because you are still carrying around baggage. If you want to have the company of men occasionally, just make it clear that you do not want to date seriously, you just need friends. As time passes you will heal from your traumatic relationship and you will be able to open up again to another worthy person. When you do start dating again, try to be selective. If you see anger, verbal abuse of any kind from the person you are dating, drop him like a hot potato and move on...don't make the same mistake again. Best of Luck to You.
2007-03-16 03:33:01 · answer #1 · answered by cardgirl2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all... yikes! all the hate on Virgos?!?! As a Virgo, it all hit my heart a little. Ive met only a small handful of Virgos, mostly men, and yeah, they are an oddly confusing bunch when it comes to matters of the heart (or sex)... but Ive also had some horrible relationships in the past with many other signs too. Maybe its just me!? lol People are who they are, act as they feel accordingly to any situation, no matter their sign, their planetary alignment on the day of their birth has its part to play but its not the be all and end all of it... I guess many other factors such as upbringing and family can play a part also. Im having an issue with my man too, and yes, he is a Virgo and so am I... things between us have been amazing, but all of a sudden, he drove off and has disappeared, and that hurts, it hurts a helluva lot... im giving him space, but what i want to know is, how much space and time to give before it becomes a waste of time? I think he got scared of his feelings, and after being hurt in the past (yes, he has opened up to me on more than one occasion), who can blame him, but surely there comes a time in your life (he is 33) no matter your sign, when your inner voice tells you that playing games, running away and over thinking has become just wasteful and you realize you're only hurting yourself? To the original poster: I think perhaps after months have gone by, and nothing, you have to ask yourself, are you willing to wait another few months for nothing else to happen too? Move on, not to spite him for disappearing, but for yourself... make your life out to be what you want it to be, not what someone has dictated to you in any manner what they want your life to be. Stop waiting around for something that has already past you by, it was obviously his loss, since you have waited months now, you have shown your loyalty... go ahead and live for you, and if by some small chance he returns to your life, dont make space for him in yours, let him make it for you, and if that doesn't happen, then you've already distanced yourself from him and it wont feel like such a tragic loss again. I hope i helped a little, and someone who may be reading this can offer some insight into my question above too. Good luck!
2016-03-16 21:32:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the other guy you are a little scared of falling in love again.if you really care for this it will happen on its own and this time make sure he is not like that .love comes natural so let it be.RELAX in joy the guy
2007-03-16 03:33:04 · answer #3 · answered by Melissa G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can not get away from love, even though you had a broken heart before. because so many attractive people in the world , one is good looking, and one is nice person, you will not stay away fron it because they can win you heart easily. if you are attractive you can beat people's hearts easily
i never get away fromlove but now i am still loving with th eone person only even though he is far faraway i will not stop love him, because i have th elovely memory to remind me of him.....
2007-03-16 03:39:45 · answer #4 · answered by 2Q 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋