Why are some women insecure of their looks?

Question

I love all women, fat ,skinny, tall (that can be exciting), short. I dont think they are ugly, they dont need makeup or fancy clothes. hell you dont even need perfume. all women have a natural scent.

Answer 1

It's simple....every woman on the planet wants to feel like her man only has eyes for her. We are bombarded with propaganda from the media that tells us every day that being beautiful means being thin, having shiny, flowing hair, white even teeth, beautiful eyes, flawless skin, soft silky to the touch skin, and firm, perky breasts. It comes at us every day of our lives. The thing is, most men are quite visual creatures...it's just a fact of life, and if you took a poll, most men would tell you that they want a hot, thin woman, someone they think beautiful and sexy,over a fat girl. Now...I didn't say "ALL" I said "MOST" . A woman who isn't "Model" pretty or "Model" thin can be made to feel a little insecure. I am 54 years old and I don't want to come across as sounding conceited, but in my youth I was told that I was pretty enough to be a model. Today I am told that I look 10 years younger than my 54 years, and I still draw alot of attention from men...but I am very insecure because I struggle to keep my weight down and after giving birth to 5 kids...I look okay with my clothes on, but not so great with them off. I have no stomache muscle left. This makes me very insecure. I also have spider veins on my thighs...this make me insecure. My breast are no longer "perky" and this too makes me insecure. Yet, I am whistiled at, told I am beautiful and have been told that I am "sensual" in my demeanor, yet still come across as a lady...which I am. So, there you have it. I hope this sheds some light on what woman deal with.

Answer 2

because there is a multi-billion dollar industry based on telling women they are ugly and for a large and rediculous sum of money they can be made attractive to men. then this industry owned and operated by women and gay men since day one has pinned the blame for the shallow idealism on men, men who most of the time could care less about make-up or perfume or hair color for that matter. but when you get right down to it guys have the same industry telling them stuff too and because we possess an organ women lack, the backbone, we don't listen to it, guys dress and look how they feel comfortable, i'd say it's high time women did the same, of course women have such weak minds that i doubt they'll do it. but thats why they are insecure is because people have been telling them since day one they aren't attractive enough on their own and women are not smart enough to ignore it.

Answer 3

All I can tell you is that the older you get your body is not as beautiful as it use to be in your younger years. However, you accept and love every inch of your physical body. Maybe is an age issue. I do agree with you that beauty is in the eye's beholder. Most important of all is that beauty is from the inside out and I think you see that very clearly. First impressions are always from the outside but with time you see beyond the physical eyes.

Answer 4

You are not like most people in the world... I don't think it's just women that have insecurities.... Men do as well.... and I think a lot of it has to do with the way our society portrays people on TV... It make everyone think that you have look a certain, dress a certain way.... And it's up to us to make decisions on our looks as to what is best for us.... However, I am glad to hear that you feel the way that you do... There should be more people like you in the world...

Answer 5

Because not all men share your perspective on 'natural beauty'. Women are told from an early age that they have to look a certain way by both family & friends, marketing and the media. We have to look at our very best, otherwise we're hideous, monsterous beasts.

Answer 6

because society has us thinking we need to look a certain way to be pretty...but there are a lot of people out there that are pretty on the outside and but really ugly on the inside.,,,

I can share a little about me...The only thing i'm insecure about is that i have small breast...I'm insecure because..well dont guys like that dont guys want a women with a body I want my man to be sastified with me...so i can feel not attractive because of that...but I dont my insecurities on nobody that is something i need to deal with..

Answer 7

We'll never tell! ah ha no I am just kidding. . .
Women can be either insecure from past experience of relationship, even society can make a women feel insecure. I honesty think women doll up there looks for other women not men. Ha ha. One of women's mysterious secrets.

Answer 8

You sound like a sweet guy. I think women are mostly insecure because of past hurts and other women making them feel bad about themselves. Most of the time it is usually women that make us women feel bad about ourselves because women always have this competition going on with each other, but if you meet a woman like that you can help her to feel secure about herself by your positive attitude. If she's smart she will learn from that and change.

Answer 9

Some???
Make that ALL.

It's a natural thing. Women attract men by looking nice.
The best way to make sure somebody looks nice is to implants little feelings of self-doubt, so that a woman constantly evaluates her looks.
Once she feels too self-secure, she won't bother with her looks; she'll look worse because she thinks 'nothing to do, I look great!' and men will pass her by.
Therefore, genes of women with a natural self-doubt spread. Woman who think they look so great that they are natural man-magnets and don't have to do anything, don't get men, and don't pass on these confident genes :)

Answer 10

I can't really explain why we are. I think it's culture...we're programmed to look for flaws, and the easiest subject to find faults with is ourselves. And the thing is, a lot of us even are aware how stupid our little complaints about ourselves are, and yet we cannot be constantly content.
One of the most frustrating things about being a woman is never feeling content with ourselves.
Our biggest challenge (and our most important necessity to live a truly happy life) is to love and accept ourselves, and most of us really are working on it- and it's sure a nice reminder that men like you exist, who love us and accept us as we are.
Thanks!