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Back in grade school this girl and I had attempted to date. Didn't really work out, a maturity issue mostly. We lost contact for 6 years until meeting again online last year. We have since become the best of friends, however I feel something more for her. She has stated that she really values the friendship and wouldn't risk losing it, while we casually talked about our previous attempts at relationships. I however have felt almost miserable not saying how I truly feel about her. I really value the friendship too, and it's the last thing in the world I'd want to lose, but I can't shake the feelings for her. Should I tell her how I feel? Last thing I want is to hurt her, and confessing has the chance to do that. On the flip side if I don't tell her, I'll likely keep feeling miserable. Not sure what to do.

2007-03-16 03:10:06 · 4 answers · asked by Antoine 4 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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Tell her! It's never good to keep things like that inside. Start off by saying something like "I value your friendship & i would never do anything to hurt you.... I need to tell you that I have very strong feelings for you...." and whatever more you would like to add to that.

Even if she doesn't want to move forward with a relationship with you.... you can still be friends with her. Let her know you do not want to force anything on her, but you felt that you needed to tell her.

If she wants to move on with a relationship with you it will happen, if not & if she values you as a friend she will continue being friends with you.

2007-03-16 03:16:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Wouldn't it be great to date one of your best friends??...I mean if more relationships strived to have a basis of friendship first, there would be this great foundation to build upon. This would definitely be a could of, should of scenario if she winds up with another guy...tell her before you lose the chance. If she does not reciprocate, well guess what? You still have a great friend for life.

2007-03-16 03:16:27 · answer #2 · answered by Suzanne 4 · 0 0

Admit it to her. Mention that you have no issues with remaining friends and only friends, but it was something you had to get off her chest. Tell her you require no response from her - but it's something that has been on your mind for a long time.

2007-03-16 03:17:13 · answer #3 · answered by MBE 2 · 0 0

Don't tell her.
She'll give you the age old 'I love you but not in that way' answer.

Want to know why?
Do an internet search on 'Ladder theory' and 'friendzone'.

Women love 'best friends' but they don't fall 'in love' with them.

Don't confess, keep your good friend and find yourself a girlfriend.

2007-03-16 03:25:09 · answer #4 · answered by mgerben 5 · 0 0

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