my bf and i want to get married when we're done with college. i'll be 23 how do we pay for it, a loan, parents

Answer 1

Get jobs and pay as you go. I'll have my wedding paid for before it happens. Don't get a loan, you'll spend way too much money on stuff you don't need, and you'll be paying it for years to come. You don't want to start your marriage off in debt. Don't spend a crazy amount of money on your wedding. My wedding is a total of $5,000 and my sister's was $8,000 and they were great. You can spend even less and still have a great wedding. Spending more than you can afford is a big mistake.
You can probably expect your parents to help out a little bit, but don't count on them paying for the whole thing. This is something you're going to have to ask them about. My parents were able to give about 15% of our costs, and my fiance's parents did not contribute anything.
Good luck.

Answer 2

My best suggestion is to wait until you've both established your lives and even your careers a little more. I know you probably don't want to hear that. So much will change with each of you once you've graduated. People get married under challenging circumstances all the time, but marriage is hard enough even under the best circumstances. This advice comes from someone who has a great marriage btw. If you and your bf are true soul mates, you will continue to live along side of each other during this time of getting established.

One other thing regarding the actual ceremony should you decide to get married at 23. Don't go crazy spending money on credit for the ceremony and reception. Do what you can easily afford. I know that it seems like a wedding is really worth "spending the future" for, but there will come a day when you regret the bills.

Answer 3

I am 23, going on 24 in a couple of weeks, and my fiancee is 29. We both have jobs (he makes more than I do but has a lot of credit card debt). We are getting married at the court house this May and then having a BBQ in August with all of our friends and family. It won't necessarily be pot luck, but it also won't be anything fancy (I'm thinking more along the lines of a family reunion).

This may not be our dream wedding but the end result is the same: we'll be married. And, we're using our money for more important things: like bills.

You don't need to have an elaborate wedding to get married. All you need is a marriage license and someone to perform the ceremony. The rest is optional.

Answer 4

Talk to your parents and see if they are willing and in a financial position to pay for the wedding. If so have them help you set a budget and stick wiht it. If you have to pay, i wouldnt take out a loan. Starting your marriage off in debt is very stressful and can really put a strain on your marriage. Why start off with money problems if you dont have to. just have a small wedding.

Yopu can also see if his parents are able/willing to chip in towards the expenses. Its not traditional but many parents are more than willing to help. Just look for tips online and in magazines on all the ways to save money on a wedding, you really dont have to spend a ton of money to have a great day. And remember the less people that come to the wedding, the less expensive the wedding so consider a small cerimony.

Answer 5

I'm kind of in the boat you are- But I graduated a year ago, and I've had a steady, decently paying job since. When my boyfriend graduates college next year, we plan to get married. He works part time on campus doing jobs.
I've set aside a money cd to gain interest for a while so that when it does come time to pay for the wedding I have some money to put into the kitty. Luckily, I know my parents will help out as best they can, but I want to be able to help pay for it too, as much as I can. My boyfriend and I will probably split it up according to ability to pay between our families.
But really, we have the opinion that the wedding itself really doesn't matter: we're trying to keep it as casual and fun as we can, and we'll save money in whatever ways we can without sacrificing the guests' enjoyment. We'd like to save as much money as possible for our life together, and if that means less pomp and circumstance for the one single party day, then we're cool with that.
good luck, and congrats!!

Answer 6

start putting back money into a savings account now. even if is only 10 bucks a week. If you go to a bank and ask for a personal loan you will be able to state how long you have been trying to save, it will be at their bank already the money in savings and just get s a small $5,000 loan to pay back. Then for your wedding ask for cash for gifts and use that to pay for your loan.

Answer 7

Depending on what type of wedding you want, its probably best just to wait and save some money for it. My fiance and I are waiting until he's done with grad school and we both have jobs for awhile.

One important thing to think about is: how worth it is it to accumulate mass debt over a wedding? Especially if you are going to have student loans to pay off.

There are plenty ways to have a budget wedding you just have to think outside the box. But if you want to go all out, I would wait and save.

Answer 8

You want to pay for what? For marriage? College? I thought you dont need to pay for marriage. Student loans, is the best best if you are meaning College :-) Happy Married Life

Answer 9

Get married at the court house, outside somewhere, or elope, or work for a year or two and pay for it yourselves. All that money would be better spent for a downpayment on a house!!

Answer 10

Well, you are all grown up, so the two of you totally pay for it yourselves. You save and scrimp, then have the type of wedding you can afford.