Do you ever wish you had just had the one child?.
2007-03-16 02:57:30 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I am pregnant with my second child right now. He was planned, unlike the first baby. I felt like I could take comfort in knowing we wanted and planned this, but to be honest, I'm terrified! Don't get me wrong, I love this baby and my other one. I'm excited to bring him into the world. But I seriously worry how I can manage two of them sometimes. My daughter is 3 and she is very well behaved, but there are some days where my job with her becomes very demanding. So I wonder what am I to do on those days after the baby comes? I won't be able to put as much energy solely into her as I do now. Not only that, but I work and take care of the household, how am I going to get anything done?
I have a feeling that a lot of my feelings are normal for moms having their second child. So I try not to worry about it too much, or I'll really start to fret and probably all for nothing! Anyways, we wanted this second baby because we want to have a family. We couldn't imagine ourselves with just one child. I am sure that once this new baby comes, all my fears will be put to rest. We all had our fears with the first one too, didn't we? And they all went away after they were born.
2007-03-16 05:07:37 · answer #1 · answered by starlight_940 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well my husband and I have 4 kids, and sometimes it could be very stressful. But we get through the tough times and concentrate more on the wonderful times with our children and we think about the future, future grandkids, holidays together, and just being together with our family. And even though it can be hard at times I know that my children are only going to be young for a very short period of time and then they will become adults with their own lives. So I treasure everyday that they are still children and we have alot of fun together. Some people can't handle raising more than one child, and that's ok too, some people just don't have the patience to raise more than one child, so only you and your spouse know what size family fits into your life. No I don't regret my 4 rugrats.
2007-03-16 04:51:10 · answer #2 · answered by attheendofmyrope 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only at the beginning when baby 1 wants me to carry and baby 2 is still inside the stomach kicking me and me feeling very tired and heavy. But the thoughts passed very fast.
At times, it is quite tough but No, no regrets. We made the baby, we form the miracle. Hence, we should be responsible adults to love, care and nurture our little ones.
My second baby son is so handsome, most people will stop and want to play with him. Definitely, no regrets and dun waste time regretting when we should put the time to good use by playing with them more often. Life is short, dun waste them thinking and looking back and regretting.
Take care.
2007-03-16 03:55:48 · answer #3 · answered by Little cloud 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents had 3 children close in age. 1st a boy, a year later a girl(me) and then a year and a 1/2 later, another boy. I have loved growing up with siblings. I have a cousin who is an only child and she had to rely on friends only because otherwise she was really lonely. She wishes she had someone to share moments with etc who is/was around the same age as her. I don't always love my brothers but I'm glad I have siblings. I wouldn't want to be an only child. All the only childs I know (I know heaps) have always been a bit self-centred, selfish and wanting to act maturer (in a bad way) for their age because they were brought up in an environment around just adults.
2007-03-16 03:04:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes, especially since my husband walked out on us shortly after the second baby was born. I wonder what if we had on had one would we still be together?? I love my daughters though and wouldn't want to trade them for anything in the world, including their father :)
2007-03-16 04:27:37 · answer #5 · answered by Mandy R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, Not at all!...My kids are my world, plus more and if i had the chance to go back and do it differently(by just having one), I wouldnt, Im thankful for my two kids!..They are what makes everyday Special to me!...Dont ever regret your children!
2007-03-16 03:14:56 · answer #6 · answered by babygirlz3n2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm currently pregnant with my second and I can understand how you feel My ex-husband left me while I was pregnant with my daughter and now 3 years later I'm pregnant with my son and my fiancee "changed his mind" So I am a single mother of two children and it does get stressful. But I love both my children and I wouldnt trade either one of them.
2007-03-16 03:04:52 · answer #7 · answered by cee_jae22 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
some times when in stress, i got that idea. but it is not good to regret having a second baby.
2007-03-16 03:01:08 · answer #8 · answered by nightingale 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We have 5 and don't regret having any of them .... however for each person I think it's a personal decision, but if you already have to you need not think like that....and enjoy them both equally
2007-03-16 03:17:47 · answer #9 · answered by ~*common sense*~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it doesnt matter how many different ways you word it, your asking the same question so stop spamming the place and make up your own mind!
are you really going to take internet message advice telling you wether or not YOU want a second child??
jeez.
2007-03-16 03:14:57 · answer #10 · answered by ejhedgehog 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋