I feel like such a failure that I'm not going to college until a year later?

Question

Can you say something to help me stress out less?

Answer 1

Make sure you do something productive with your time, say work a part time job to see if you like a particular profession. If you do, you'll get the chance to get work experience, make lots of new friends, become more professionally polished, and have money to party. Make sure you party hard once you're out of work. College will be more partying, but, hey, why should that stop you from partying before you get to college.

As you get older experience tells you that comparing yourself to your peers isn't necessary or beneficial. But, when you're younger comparing yourself to your peers helps give you a sense of identity.

So, you're taking a year off. Live it up. You'll be glad you did. Besides, older people are better able to get good grades in college. More work ethic.

Answer 2

There is absolutely NO reason to feel like a failure. I'm sure you have a lot of reasons for doing this. I had wanted to take a year off between HS and college, but didn't because I was offered a scholarship that I would not have been able to get if I had not gone right away. I just finished, got my BA last spring. Going worked out for me in a sense because I was offered a job right away in my field, but it's not the same for everyone.

At this point in my life, I am being looked down on though because I didn't go to grad school right away (which i really do want to do eventually) and that does kind of make me feel like I am not so successful right now, so I am kind of in the same boat as you are. The worse thing about what I am currently doing is that I work with grad students all day and some of them do snub their noses at me because I am at the point where I could be a grad student, but I'm not. It's also hard when you are in the presence of people who are working to get a higher degree than you have. They will often try to make it seem like they are so much better than you are. Don't let this happen and just stick with your decision. It is hard to go back though, so dont forget that either. You can do it if you really believe you can and you really want to.

Answer 3

If I could do it all over again I WOULD HAVE WAITED A YEAR!!

When I went to college, three months after I graduated from High School, I was clueless. I jumped immediately into a major, (I had NO idea what I wanted to do with my life), pledged a Fraternity, (wasn't for me) and I only managed money as well as I did because I DIDN'T HAVE ANY!

Waiting a year to go to college can turn out to be a good thing if you take the right approach. Use this time to examine your options,.. get an idea of what you may want to do w/ your life. I bet that you'll find that it'll change by the time you enter college,.. if not, then you can make the choice, (major course of study) with more confidence.

Work & save up a little spending money. Take the time to increase your skills in any weak areas. The time can be well spent and will fly by before you know it!

Keep in mind:

When you get to college, no one is going to know that you waited a year,.. you'll "look just like all the other freshmen",.. but a wiser one you will be!
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Answer 4

Actually it may work out better. This gives you more time to prepare, and even get a job and have some money before you go. You have a chance to be home for a while, and really feels things out and find out what is right for you. I think it is a blessing and I wish I had an extra year. I never finished, and ended up in the military. If I had waited I would have been more mature, would have known what I wanted, and would have been more determined to do well. I also would have had more money for spending, and been a lot happier. Good Luck.

Answer 5

Is there a good reason why you are taking the year off - finances perhaps? If that's the reason then there is no reason to feel like a failure - lots of kids do it because they have no choice. A failure would be if you took the year off and didn't go back to school after that because you got too comfortable with a pay cheque.

Why not take some night courses or on-line courses that will benefit you when you do go back next year. Depending on the subject, you can get credit towards your course load next year....talk to the college guidance department and find out.
Also keep yourself busy and healthy through sports or working out at a gym, reading etc. Spend this year productively & you won't feel like you "wimped out". Good luck......

Answer 6

Just make sure that you go and you will be fine! Don't let that one year later become 10 years later. It took me 5 years with summer classes to get out of college so don't feel bad that you are going a year later. Make sure you have a plan when you get there as far as what classes you want to take so you can maximize your time!!! A year to mature a little more is never a bad thing. Keep your head up & GOOD LUCK!!!

Answer 7

That doesnt' mean you're a failure! A lot of people take a year off before going to college. Take advantage of the time & have some fun. Get a job to get some extra cash, spend some time at the beach (if you have one nearby) and just live it up until the year passes.

You'll be fine! :-) Good luck!

Answer 8

I put off college for ten years (I didn't go until I was 28 years old). It was a wonderful experience. You have no idea how EASY college is until you've spent time in the real world.

I think it actually puts one in a much better perspective if one has some workplace experience first and then goes to college.

A lot of people forego college for a year or two. Don't stress. It's not as unique as you think.

Answer 9

There is nothing that says that you have to go to college right away. Personally I wish I had taken a year off to see & do a few things before going right back to school. The important thing to remember is that you do what is best for you. So freakin' what if you go a year later as long do the best that you can once you get there. No one can ask anything more of you than you do your best.

Answer 10

College is a big deal and a lot of people start late or finish late. It is NOTHING to be ashamed of in the least. Better that you put it off until you know exactly what you want to do than to go in half-assed at first. You probably have a better idea now of what you wnat to accomplish in school than you would have a year ago, so that puts you way ahead of many people who do not have that knowledge right away. Congratulations, and Good Luck.