My boyfriend is 21 and loves to drink, I will be 21 in a few months, but its not really a big deal to me. He's been staying with me on his spring break from college, when he came home last night, he was so intoxicated he told me that he hated me, never wanted to talk to me again, and a few other hurtful things. I slept in my guestroom away from him. This morning I told him about it and he didn't remember, he apologized a few times and then told me it was my fault for putting up with him drunk and he's not going to stop because he likes getting wasted. I just don't know what to do, I really care about him, he is absolutly amazing to me sober. any advice?
2007-03-16 02:29:37 · 5 answers · asked by kaycie986 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Adive? Get out of the relationship now. He will only continue to hurt you. I was married to a man like that--lasted longer than it should have.
Get out now!!!!
2007-03-16 02:35:12 · answer #1 · answered by intewonfan 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you were very upset by the way he treated you after drinking profusely, and you think that he has a problem with alcohol and needs to go for help. If he refuses, tell him the relationship is over and move on. This situation will only get worse and all you will hear is , drinking, drunk, apology, drinking, drunk, apology; the same scenario over and over again. When he goes back to school, don't have any contact with him, and just cool it with him weaning yourself away from him. Alcohol seems to have taken over his life and you will always be second, so get out now, because this guy has to learn the hard way.
2007-03-16 03:26:20 · answer #2 · answered by cardgirl2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get away from this situation. First it can start with him verbally abusing you while he is drunk and then lead to physical abuse. If he is not willing to change his drinking habits you can't do it for him. And if he is unwilling to stop drinking to the point where he blacks out and is abusive to you then he does not care too much about you in the first place. You have your whole life ahead of you, don't waste your time with this guy.
2007-03-16 02:47:04 · answer #3 · answered by eggshell134 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said it. You're an idiot! Get her back by how you won her in the 1st place - there's a strong chance she may not want to go back, many girls don't date their ex's for fear of being hurt again. She may think that you did it once so you may do it again. The dream may have been what you did and it may have been a warning to keep her safe from someone or something from breaking her heart, but you didn;t protect her. You're the one who break her heart! You need to win her trust back but don't push it. Tell her about the dream and that, in the long run, you were just trying to make things easier for her. But tell her you know how dumb you were and that you still love/like her. It should resolve itself but you have to mean it and want to get back and not do that again. Good luck! X.
2007-03-16 02:39:29 · answer #4 · answered by anything2getin 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Leave him and leave him now.
2007-03-16 02:35:02 · answer #5 · answered by Toney Brown 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋