i walked in on my girlfriend and her hot mate kissing on the sofa, is she a lesbian, bi or did her mate just come onto her, i wanna join in (LOL) but i dno how to ask, plz help
2007-03-16 02:22:08 · 40 answers · asked by Kiro L 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just be honest with her and tell her you feelings. The same thing kinda happened to me, except she kept it a secret because she didn't want to hurt me! All she had to do was tell me and I would have been all over that. Communication is the key. Just talk to her.
You are lucky. Don't mess it up
Good luck and have fun
2007-03-16 02:24:46 · answer #1 · answered by Michael b 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's attracted to both women and men, then she's bi.
Just because she's bi doesn't mean she's into threesomes. You can ask, but she AND her girlfriend would have to be interested and the likelihood is low.
Threesomes are fun but, IMO, not that much better than one on ones, unless you are in love with both of the people.
I was in a three person relationship (triad) a little over a year ago and we often made love in a threesome. Seeing my two lovers together was something that warmed my heart, but the feeling wasn't particularly erotic.
2007-03-16 02:30:25 · answer #2 · answered by Radagast97 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way I see it, doubtful. She said herself that to be with another girl would be gross and unnatural to her. Besides, if she was lesbian, what would she gain by pretending to be straight? Why bother? When she said her friends are trying to turn her lesbian, she probably didn't mean it seriously. Her friends are probably more than aware that sexuality is not something you choose. It sounds more like the kind of playful teasing that occurs between friends. Girls are so much better, aren't you sorry that you're missing out - that sort of thing. You not meeting her friends could be rooted in something entirely different. Like you said, she hasn't met all your friends either, so it goes both ways. And you worrying about her always being with her lesbian friends - don't. She most likely doesn't hang out with them because they are lesbian/bi. She hangs out with them because they're her friends. Just like you hang out with your friends because they're your friends. Her's just happen to have a different sexual orientation.
2016-03-29 01:35:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try asking the question:
The other night when i walked in on you and your mate kissing, is this something that i can be a part of or are we allowed two relationships each?
or
Invite her mate round for chinese have plenty of wine on tap, get them both drunk and join in when the fun starts lol
Good luck.
2007-03-16 02:47:53 · answer #4 · answered by blue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication is the key. You'll have to ask her what happened as there is no way of knowing what is going on if you don't. If it turns out that she is bisexual & is into threesomes then I suppose you'll probably be one of the luckiest, happiest men alive. If she is a lesbian, then the news is not so good for you. Be prepared for whatever outcome. If she is a lesbian then I hope you'll be supportive of her. Good luck!
2007-03-16 02:31:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
For goodness sake, didn't it cross your mind to ask her at the time??? Think I would have!
It sounds as though she was hoping she would get caught, in which case perhaps you should have offered to join in at the time? Sounds like a missed opportunity.
You need to broach the subject with her, otherwise she may think you're not interested and not try again.
Be prepared to get the answer you're not expecting though, just in case!
2007-03-16 02:27:57 · answer #6 · answered by Dogsbody 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there...
If they do it again, just come out with it. Nine times out of ten they'll be so steamed up that they won't care. Then add in the shock of your 'indecent proposal' and it's hallelujah, sweet ladylove.
Either that, or you can offer to screw the mate while your missus watches. That's how I got lucky.
2007-03-16 02:44:03 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe this is her way of telling you its over?? Just ask her.
Actually after reading your other question (you have 3 girlfriends) I realise you must be in prison and dreaming about all the women you can never have.
2007-03-16 02:26:56 · answer #8 · answered by Ms Dee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if she is a lesbian then she wont let you join in. or maybe you was that bad as a boyfriend that she had to seek attention from her mate lol =)
2007-03-16 02:25:45 · answer #9 · answered by lilshortyjess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have confronted her when it happened. Whether she is with a man or a woman, its still cheating. Ask her about her sexual preference and tell her if this is going to happen regularly, then you would like to join her.
2007-03-16 02:27:13 · answer #10 · answered by mlock123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋