My 1st relationship ended about a month ago.
I'm not sure if its really over or whether there's still hope of getting back together again. There's so many mixed signals from him. He would msged me initially when I stopped all contacts with him and even tried calling me once but I wasn't at home then. I called him back and he told me not to pester him. He said there would be a chance for us but then he changed his mind again and now he said he has moved on already. Why is he acting this way? What should I do? Should I leave him alone until he has made up his mind?
2007-03-16 02:21:47 · 12 answers · asked by Grace 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He did say before that he thinks that we will always be more than friends...Should I believe in that?
We loved each other so deeply before. How can someone move on in such a short period of time? Is he lying to me ?
2007-03-16 02:30:53 · update #1
We're both 21 years old.
2007-03-16 02:32:28 · update #2
If you havn't been together for 1 month then yeah it's over. You still care about him but he obviously is not giving that vibe back. I think that he still likes you too but he doesn't know what to do because he probably got mixed signals from you. If he says that he is moved on then there isn't anything that you can do because he is basically ruling out any chance of you two being together for now. I think that you are a smart girl because you have already answered your question. Move on and enjoy doing other things and maybe you will be able to get together in the future. Who knows maybe you will meet someone new and not even want to be with him anymore. Good Luck.
2007-03-16 02:29:24 · answer #1 · answered by Vince R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going thru the same thing. We get go back and forth and we have been dating for 3 1/2 years. I get so many mix signals, one day we are happy and he is tellin me he loves me and wants to be with me, next day or so he tells me that I should just leave him alone and he just wants a break from me. I would always blame myself and think that there is something wrong with me. I still am trying to figure out what to do. Everyone tells me that your first true love will always have an impact on you. Its hard and hurts alot, but sometimes I'm glad we are over, cause he treats me like crap. I do everything for him, I even bought him 3 tickets for him and his friends to go to Germany for Oktoberfest, and he never once told me thank you. I am clueless on what to do. It seems as tho this is not really much help, but I hope you listen to your heart and know that you are a great person that deserves the best. Do whats best for you to be happy and not make him happy!!! PUT YOURSELF FIRST IN LINE!!!!!! Please e-mail me and let me know what happens, so maybe you can help me too. huyentran_htran@yahoo.com
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2007-03-16 03:44:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When a guy says he has moved on already, why are you still trying to hold on and hoping still? He has made up his mind and it doesn't look like he wants to be with you. He can't make up his mind, then he says he has moved on. Don't hang on to such a man cos you are only hoping to get hurt yet again. He's not that into you. The signs are all there.
Now if he really loves you, he won't be moving on or behaving like he isn't sure what he wants would he? Don't lie to yourself.
2007-03-16 02:30:22 · answer #3 · answered by Bugsy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would help to know how old you are, but in any case he is playing with you. Don't let him get the best of you. Don't wait on him. Move on you are better than that. I think you should leave him alone, but not till he makes up his mind. Your mind should already be made up. Just let him go. Rememeber you are a good person and someone out there will treat you with the respect you deserve. Don't ever settle for less. Good luck, let us know what happens.
2007-03-16 02:30:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why is your life on hold for someone else?If someone that you have been with has moved on then you should move on too.You say this is your first relationship so you have things to learn so learn them.Sit down and think about this relationship all of it the good things the not so good,then learn how all these actions effected you and what you can change about your self and what kind of person was he and do you like the kind of person he was to you ?You have to learn from this because surely you didn't think your life was over after having one relationship?Each new person you meet and connect with will show you different pictures of their world and you must decide who's world you become a part of and who's world is not accommodating to your spirit.Everyone you meet will not be forever.
2007-03-16 02:30:49 · answer #5 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-18 12:44:33 · answer #6 · answered by rosen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him alone for good! If he's going to treat you this way and play you hot and cold then tell him that you deserve better and that you're not going to be the one sitting around waitng for him. You have more chances and he's just holding you back! Good luck! X.
2007-03-16 02:28:54 · answer #7 · answered by anything2getin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is acting that way cause he stiil has love for you and he is hurt,but don't know what to do.you nad him should try to talk thing out.you should leave him alone until he makes up his mind.
2007-03-16 02:31:05 · answer #8 · answered by pecancaramel16 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like neither one of you are mature enough to know what you want.
2007-03-16 02:25:44 · answer #9 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, definitely leave him alone..don't lower yourself,,,
2007-03-16 02:25:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋