Me and my girl have been together for over a year and over the last few weeks things haven't been the same. I still love her as much as ever but she doesn't seem to be as into me anymore. I went through a period a few months ago where I took things for granted a little, and now I hate myself for it. We have had a few serious discussions and we have both agreed to make it work. But things still dont seem right? She is going big on her friends at the moment, and for the first time in our relationship they appear to mean more to her than me. I don't wanna give up on it, in fact I want to be with her more than anything...but what can I do?
2007-03-16 02:19:05 · 7 answers · asked by tony 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you need to show her how much she means to you again. more than anything you need to talk to HER about this, not us. If she understands where you're coming from and sees how badly you want to make things work, and she STILL doesn't come around there may not be enough left to save. but if you can talk to her about this and get a genuine reaction from her, it could really help you to figure out how to preceed from here.
2007-03-16 02:22:45 · answer #1 · answered by kerri c 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her know that you still wanna be with her! And that you know she may be going through some things or what not but you're here for her and tell her than you understand that she needs her friends but you're there too. And whatever you do jsut dont give up, have as many "serious discussions" as you want. But don't give up! However, if she wants to move on after a period of time - you must let her. There's no point in holding onto something that will hurt you both in the end. Good luck! X
2007-03-16 09:26:44 · answer #2 · answered by anything2getin 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I think you can save your relationship, depends how hard you work on saving it. You said you took things for granted for a while. This might be the reason she is holding back her affections as a guard from getting taken for granted again. During this time she probably found comfort within her friends and has learned to appreciate them more than ever. Since it appears you have learned from this and have learned it is not good to take any one for granted, in itself indicates you are already on the right path. Show you value and appreciate her, be kind and considerate of her feelings. Doing this can do wonders in melting any girls heart. But do remember, you taking her for granted has hurt her and has made her doubtful of your love for her. To regain the trust and intimacy you both had will take some time. Best of luck to you!
2007-03-16 09:31:11 · answer #3 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls seem to want and need more face time from us guys than we can give them. Some will even try to make us suffer and pay for not doting on them 24/7. A "relationship" should only work if both parties feel the same way. If one is more overbearing than the other, maybe it's time to split. Each party should be in the relationship because they want to...not because the other party has demands on your time and stuff.
2007-03-16 09:28:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her and tell her. If she doesn't feel the same way, it is time to let go & move on.
You know what they say about loving someone but that it isn't the right time to be together cos the other person just isn't ready. Or that it won't work cos the other party doesn't want in anymore.
2007-03-16 09:24:01 · answer #5 · answered by Bugsy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Although it will not be easy, it sounds like right now she needs some space. If you try to crowd her right now she will probably try to push you away. Let her know you are still there for her and still love her, but give her some time. Explain that you are giving her space, not because you want to , but because it is what she wants and you want her to be happy. Good luck, I hope things work out
2007-03-16 09:29:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, it's "my girl and I," not "me and my girl," you semi-literate, self-centered putz. "But things still dont seem right" is NOT a question.
Grow up, get over it, move on.
2007-03-16 09:33:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋