I have broken up with my gf, i still love her to bits but she seems not to care we have broken up, we have to see each other everyday and she still comes to see me and hugs me all the time. she got with me straight from another relationship and im thinkin she just needs space but i get mixed signals from her, she says she will come and stay with me in the holidays and she misses me when im not there and looks forward to seeing me again when im coming back. She has said we are not getting back together but we will have to see each other for the next 2 years and im not sure i can see her as just a mate when i feel like this. i want to give her space but i want to belive something can happen in the future.
I hate feeling like this tho and want to just get on and enjoy being single at the same time. But like i said this is difficult havning to see her everyday. does she still like me or should i give up? what shud i do?
2007-03-16 02:17:43 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just forget her, time is the only healer, so staying around her will not help
2007-03-16 02:20:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe your right and she needs some space for a time to understand her own feelings, there is a lot of information that you havent said, like how long was she with the person befor you? why did they break up? how long have you been together? what did she say was the reason for her not wanting to be a couple anymore? why are you together everyday for the next two years ect ect.
The reason your getting mixed signals is because she does not want to hurt you and so thinks it best to keep hugging you when clearly this is just making it harder for you to deal with.
You must tell her that you will give her space if thats what she needs right now, but in the meantime because of how you feel about her, it is best if she helps you by not being so close even if this means that your heart aches a little more for a time.
In time you will move on, but it can be hard and you need to tell yourself that it is normal to feel this way but its something that you must do, if you pursue her then i would say that the chances of you getting back together are limited in the exstream!!
so for now, give up, give yopurself the time you need to get over her befor moving on yourself, otherwise you will make maybe the same mistake she feels that she has and you risk hurting someone else in the same way as you are now.
Good luck, stay stronge.
2007-03-16 02:39:56 · answer #2 · answered by blue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nasty.
Tell her you don't like the mixed signals and that if you're broken up, you have to modify your behaviour together. Perhaps she just wants to be friends? Can you live with that? Do not use her behaviour as a signal that you may get back together as she has said that won't be the case.
The best thing you can do is try to get on with your life as a single man, get out with other people as much as possible, and just quietly hope she changes her mind. Other than that mate, you gotta set a new course.
Good luck buddy. My thoughts are with you!
2007-03-16 04:13:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a girl who dose not want to be alone. She keeps contact with you acts like your a couple but is free to date others. The next guy who comes along she will jump from you to him with out a break and will then tell you she did nothing wrong you were not dating. The same way she went straight to you from another relationship. You can not move on when you see and speak to someone every day. I would take some time for yourself and let her be for a while.
2007-03-16 02:36:21 · answer #4 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tough one dude...been there, done that.
I have answered this question so many times, I don't mind giving it once more.
1. Get rid of all the things that make you remember her. If you don't want to throw it away, don't blame you. This is part of your life. However what you can do it put it all in a box, and put it in storage where you know you will not see it until the next patio sale. Just as long as it is not in plain site.
2. Go out with your friends. Do the things you used to do with your friends before you had a girlfriend. If you have common friends, then go and find new things to do, which would give you the opportunity to make new friends. Take karate lessons, join a community service or a support group. Anything that will get you out of that enviroment.
3.If your girlfriend's number is in your cellphone. delete it. that will brake the urge to call her.
4. try to think of all the things that made you angry or argue with her. Anger is good. Helps you understand why you are better off without her. This one however is a little dangerous, we don't want you then to hurt someone. Be prepared to forgive once you get her off your system.
5. Solitude is good. but use it wisely: meditate. Think about yourself, where you are, where you want to be. Your goals: career, school, make a list of things where you want to be 1 year from now, 5 years from now, 10 years from now and list the things that you need to do to accomplish them. make deadlines. It's like planning a road map of your life.
6. Cry as much as you can and get it out of your system.
2007-03-16 02:33:00 · answer #5 · answered by Armandito 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be friends for a while and see how it goes. sounds like she still cares for you. Remember, You broke up with her so she is not going to ask you to get back together. Shes not going to show you even if it does bother you. you never said why you broke up ... are the reasons still there?
just keep being friends for a while and keep a good relationship. Thats the most important thing in a relationship anyway. if you meet someone else then so be it. If you feel like you want to get back with her in the future-go for it when the time feels right. just keep the friendship going
2007-03-20 01:47:14 · answer #6 · answered by samira 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like she wants to have her cake and eat it. Break all contact with her for a couple of weeks and have a go at being single and enjoy yourself with your mates. Think she'll soon see the error of her ways and come back but you may find that you wont want her. Good Luck.
2007-03-16 02:23:21 · answer #7 · answered by Sugarlump 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a case of saying to yourself its time for a change of place in my life everything comes to an end so except it remember times and move on
2007-03-16 03:07:35 · answer #8 · answered by big evil 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take ur time. try to find something to make u busy and stay away from her for some time. say a month, after that u can decide, really need space
2007-03-16 02:23:36 · answer #9 · answered by vfm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
regrettably, whether she does prefer to stay mutually... i'd decrease your losses and pass to Oregon. A clean initiate sounds astonishing. She cheated on you as quickly as, odds are she would be in a position to do it lower back. You deserve extra appropriate than that.
2016-12-14 20:42:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her that you cant get over her with her there all the time! tell her 2 try and stay distant from you. have fun being single and show her that you dont care either!!
2007-03-16 02:34:15 · answer #11 · answered by chloe h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋